A Survivors Story

00:00 Okay.

00:00 If you don't mind just picking up where you left off.

00:04 Okay. So yeah, it just, it stems off from self worth and self love. Don't try to cover up those red flags because you definitely see them and they're definitely there. Listen to them, you know, that's what I'll tell myself. Like, listen to those red flags and love myself. Because if somebody's not treating me with worth, then they're not worthy of having me.

00:28 Yeah. What are some red flags you look for now when dating or getting romantically involved with someone?

00:35 To be honest, one of the red flags and you didn't even know about it, them acting too much like a gentleman, them being too perfect. Too perfect. I look for that. Like, okay, you're too perfect, bro. What's wrong with you? Like in a sense, you know, so I definitely look for that. Not everybody's perfect, you know, there's definitely some things wrong with them, but also like looking like how they respond to other people, how they work with other people. Like something that I like about my current relationship. Is it, okay, I worked with him, you know, I met him at work, I was friends with him. That's something that I would also, you know, promote. If you're getting out of a domestic violent relationship, make friends with people. Don't jump into a relationship. Make friends and after you've been friends with them for a couple months, maybe year, you know, then, you know, but like make friends, explore and do different things, you know, be friends with them, you know, and figure them out before you just date them, you know, like I like to take the page out of my sister out of your book to date, you know, go on dates, date people. Like, it's not, there's nothing wrong with dating, you know, do that. You know, I would definitely spend more time like dating.

02:00 Yeah. Lastly, what is some advice you would have you would give to another woman going through this?

02:10 I know some advice. So like kind of like if I saw a person who's struggling.

02:17 Yeah. Or like it maybe if you had a friend or you're suspecting that she's going through something like this, what would advice would you give her?

02:26 I would definitely tell her to pray. Pray about it. But don't just pray about it. Meditate, pray. But just sit there on that prayer. Sit down that prayer with you and God and think about it. Listen to your heart. It's going to tell you, listen to your God, listen to your inner voice. It's going to tell you if you need to leave and if you need to leave girl, call me and I'll be there every step of the way. I would tell you it's going to be a fight. It's going to be hard, but you're worth it. You're worth every ounce that fight. And if they're scared of calling the cops, but if they need the cops, I would inform them. They're there to help you. They're there to control the situation. Because the situation has already gone out of hand. Where you can't control it, he can't control himself. You need another member to try to control it. It's not a bad idea to get enforcement that know how to control a situation. It doesn't mean that he's going to go to jail. He won't go to jail. But they're going to separate you guys. And trust me, I've been through that, and I can talk through you through it. They'll ask you to pick up your bags and separate you and. And he'll go home. But think about before you pick up his call, because he's gonna tell you, sorry, but just remember how ugly it got. Cause it can only get uglier. That's some advice.

04:20 Well, thank you so much for doing this interview or having this conversation with you.

04:24 Well, thank you for having me. Thank you for letting me talk to you and vent.

04:28 Yeah, you're welcome.

04:29 No problem.

04:29 Anytime.