Coffee With Mom

00:01 Hello, I'm here with my mom. My name is Amelia Lynn I am 17 years old. Today is October 28th, and here I'm talking to my mom, Jackie Burridge Hi, mom.

00:17 Hi.

00:20 We're in our kitchen, but we have some noisy upstairs neighbors, so some clomping around. Don't. Don't pay any attention to that. And so I have a few questions that I listed out for you, Mom. The first one being, well, do you have anything you'd like to tell us about yourself before we go on to the questions?

00:43 Mmm, not that I can think of.

00:48 Okay. Well, the first question I have is who is the most. Who is the person that made a big difference in your life?

01:02 I would say the first person that comes to mind would be my youth pastor from when I was a teenager. His name was Jim, and he just was the first person who I felt was influential in my life.

01:23 Yeah. What did he do to become that way?

01:25 He just. I came from a upbringing that was a little harsh. And he was the first person who really took interest and showed that he cared. He had a heart for youth aged kids, and it just showed he was there for us. He would come talk to us, he prayed for us, and it just, at that point in my life was very needed and wanted and it stuck with me through my whole life.

02:00 Would you say he was a big part of bringing you to faith too?

02:05 Well, I came to faith and started going to this church. So I would say he was a huge part of growing my faith and becoming stronger in that.

02:20 That's awesome. Would you be willing to share a memory that has a strong emotion attached to it?

02:27 Sad, happy, have to do with that?

02:30 Anything?

02:31 Well, I mean, I can share one about him. So when I was. Let's see. Well, I have several with him, but the first one that comes to mind is when I was in high school, a semi close friend of mine who also attended church with me committed suicide. And I wasn't particularly like, close, close to this person, but we talked every day at school and went on functions together with church. And I remember the day we found out he committed suicide. I somehow got out of class and was walking throughout the halls of my school and I saw Jim coming forward towards me and I just. I just broke down and lost it because, I don't know, it was super emotional. Even though this person wasn't a huge part of my life, but to have that finality and know that you would never see that person again was pretty, pretty emotional. And then later he helped me through a family situation. A big one. And I've just never that just both of those things really struck me and I've never.

03:54 So not only was he influential, but he was a comfort.

03:59 Oh, yes, definitely a comfort. And I still feel that way. I've recently come back in contact with him because he left and went to China to be a missionary. And he's back now. Of course, we're all 30 years older and. But it's just like time has not passed. It's. He always welcomes me with open arms and has the biggest smile and I feel like I could still just sit down and go to him and talk to him about anything I'm struggling with and he would still be there in the same capacity.

04:35 That's fun. It's awesome. What is a lesson that you had to learn the hard way?

04:44 Ooh. Hmm. Well, it's interesting. This has to do with him as well.

04:55 So maybe I'll title this the Story of Jim.

04:58 Yeah, so when I met your dad and had a, you know, year long relationship with, we decided to get married and it was like a quick decision, like, let's get married in a few weeks. Well, Jim being Jim and caring about my future wanted us to slow it down and wait and have some premarital counseling. But when you're that age, 18, 19 years old, you don't want to listen and you think you have it all figured out and you know what's best. So I did not listen and I actually told him a lie that obviously was not true and he knew it wasn't true and that really severed our relationship right then. He didn't even attend the wedding because he couldn't, because I had lied to him and it didn't get resolved. And I don't think it ever. I don't know if it ever did get resolved where I went to him. And because he left, you know, he soon left after that to become a missionary. I think we did resolve it eventually. I apologized and like I said, now he's totally fine, but. But I hurt that relationship and there was a consequence of my action. So that was a big, big life lesson to me. And I regret it and. But I'm so thankful that he has forgiven me. And he, you know, that was 1993. And so in 95 when he came back to visit, you know, he came over and met my first daughter and held her. And that's a precious thing too, because I have a picture of him holding, you know, my little girl and it's just really special to me. So. But that I Would say it's one of the big things that sticks out in my mind.

07:15 Yeah. What if you could go back to one moment, just for five minutes? You can't really make any difference, but you can go back to relive it for five minutes. What moment would you go back to?

07:27 Oh, wow. That's a big question.

07:32 Now, of course you can just give one answer.

07:34 I'm sure there's multiple, but I. Wow. I don't know. Gosh, if I can't change anything, I don't know if I'd want to go back. Probably I go back to any of the births of my children.

07:48 Ooh, relive that for five minutes.

07:51 I would. Or maybe right after the birth. Right after the birth, when I hold that baby for the first time. I would. I don't think I would change any of those five minutes. Those were just precious and awesome and.

08:08 Yeah, yeah, yeah. What is a piece of advice you'd like to give?

08:15 Give who?

08:17 Anyone who listens to this.

08:23 Just. I've learned as I've gotten older to just slow down, to think about things. I used to be someone who would react and respond very immediately and sometimes emotionally, and I have stopped doing that. And I take time to think about things and to really digest them and before I respond. And that has made a huge difference in my relationships and has helped me not have to go back and apologize for something that I said because I said it out of an emotional state instead of a rational thought process. So I guess I would just say to slow down and think. You don't have to respond right away to when there's conflict.

09:20 That's a good one. What is something you think everyone should try? We're getting into funner questions now.

09:28 Oh, everyone should try something specific. Or I would just say, in general, try and do as much as you can while you're young and able. Like, can you give some examples, travel, try new things, classes, things like that. Because as you get older, you look back and you might not have regrets, but you think, wow, I should have. I wish I would have done that. Or, I wish I could go there. But you can't now because, you know, you have a spouse and a family, and it's just not as economically possible. But I would say get a good education or career and try and do as much as you can with your life and don't be scared to try new things and don't be scared to fail. Don't worry about what the world thinks when they look at you, because it's ultimately not about them.

10:36 Yeah, I like that. Whatever you said to fail. Lydia often tells us when we're nervous about something, she goes, dare to suck. And it's hilarious to me, but it works.

10:48 I mean, nobody wants to fail and feel like they look like an idiot. But I've done it many times, and looking back at this point when I don't really even care, I wish I could go back and not care because it didn't matter.

11:06 Is there anything that you think back and you're like, man, I wish I would have tried that, or kind of just abroad?

11:12 Hmm, I'm sure there is. I can't think of anything specific. Honestly, I wish I would have tried and applied myself more at school. I know that sounds probably cliche and maybe stereotypical, but I had the potential. I just didn't have the drive or anyone pushing me. So I wish I kind of did. At least, you know, to my. To my potential. Not, you know, where I'm in tears, but I always did the least I could to get by. And I wish now, looking back, I had, you know, taken advantage of the teachers that were put in my path. Most of them were good and really applied myself more so I could have, you know, just taken advantage of that.

12:07 Yeah, I get that. Okay, this one's a funny question, and I'm excited for it. What is your biggest pet peeve.

12:18 Right now? I'd be the person clomping upstairs having upstairs neighbors with no carpet. Pet peeve. I. I think people lying to me, especially when I know they're lying, really stresses me out because I want to call them out, but I'm also a peacekeeper, so. And I don't like confrontation, so it's hard. But as I've gotten older, I've been a little more able to voice my thoughts on a subject matter. But I guess I would say lying. Being lied to.

13:01 Yeah. What. Oh, what is your favorite quality to find in a person?

13:16 I would just say probably to go along with my pet peeve. Flip side. Honesty and sincerity. Someone who's real, you know, just. You can sit down and talk to them and just. There's those people you can just have a conversation with, like you have known him for years. No awkward silences, I guess, or if there are silences, they're just.

13:43 Yeah.

13:44 Not awkward.

13:48 What is something that keeps your spirit alive, keeps you going?

13:54 Well, I don't know if this is what you mean, but of course, my kids, that's. You know, people say that kids are what they live for, and that's true. I mean, first and foremost, God is what keeps my spirit alive. And. But if you're talking about earthly things, then it would be my children.

14:20 I mean, God is a good answer, definitely.

14:22 God first, children second. And not just when you have to take care of them when they're little. But I truly enjoy my children and they are precious to me.

14:34 Do you have any ideas on what you want to do when your kids move out?

14:40 I love volunteering. You know, I love doing things with my church. So I would either like to find maybe a small part time job where I can still have time for me and travel and see my kids wherever they may be. Each of them are going to have a small residence for me of some sort. That's my hope. But yeah, I'd like to find a little part time job possibly and do volunteer work, help where I'm needed, travel.

15:18 Do you have a favorite child? No. She laughed. She hesitated. It was me.

15:24 No.

15:24 Hear that? Grandkids?

15:26 No, I cannot say I have a favorite.

15:31 What is something you would like to say that will last forever in this recording?

15:39 Wow, that's so much pressure.

15:40 It's not.

15:41 It is. Because I'll think of something better once I say this.

15:46 What? Go ahead.

15:47 Well, I don't know. I don't know.

15:48 You have quite a bit of time left.

15:50 No, I don't wing after this. I don't know what I would say. What's the question? Something that will last forever.

15:56 So like in this, this recording will last forever. So your grandkids.

16:00 Oh man.

16:05 Don't get the bottom floor of an apartment.

16:07 Yes. Yeah, that would definitely be, you know, I guess forgive, forgive a lot and don't let. I guess what I mean by that is, you know, you hear about these families that haven't spoken to each other in years and I just can't fathom that. It just, it's crazy to me. And we have such a short time on this earth. Even though it seems long, but it is short. That is, you know, that term life is short is not a lie. It is very short. So I think forgive and don't get hung up on things that don't matter. We're all different. We all have different opinions. You can learn to get along and love. Well, love, love well. Those people in your life and your friends and you know, family isn't just blood. So I would think that. Or I think that. Yeah. Forgiving, loving. Well.

17:26 Yeah, that's great. Now let's get into some stuff about you. Yeah. So what is your favorite TV show again?

17:40 A hard question. Because When I was growing up, I would probably say something different. Now we can stream and watch anything from any time. So.

17:53 Gosh, we'll give you your five favorites then.

17:56 Well, okay. Hmm.

18:04 I bet I could guess one.

18:06 You can try and guess Grim. I love Grim.

18:10 Psych.

18:11 Psych's good. And see, Grim. Well, Psych is one of those shows that I didn't watch when it came out. I've watched it since, so it has become one of my favorite.

18:23 I would say Veronica.

18:25 Yes, Veronica Mars. That's the one I asked. Which is another. I didn't watch when it came out. I. I watched it after.

18:31 Were you a monkeys kid? Did you watch them?

18:33 Oh, yeah. I love the monkeys. They were a little old for me. They were a little before my time. So when I was a kid, when I had a crush on them, they were older. They wouldn't. Yeah. It would not have been fine.

18:44 I mean, look at me watching Gilmore Girl.

18:46 Yeah. So, I mean, if you're talking childhood. Yes. The monkeys. It was. Yeah. X Files when I was a young adult. Yeah.

18:56 You watched that?

18:57 Oh, yeah. That was my big. That was our big Friday night show or whatever night it was on. But I think it was at Friday at some point. But okay, if you could be a.

19:05 Character in one show, which one would you want to be?

19:10 Hmm.

19:11 That's hard because you have Grim, which has such an amazing character pool. But also, would you want to live in that world?

19:20 No, Marie. Rewatching, watching for the first time. This is 2024 and Gilmore Girls came out and I think 2006 or 8 or something like that, but just now getting around to watching it. And that's a whole vibe in itself. It's not necessarily the person. Although I do relate to the sarcasm.

19:42 Oh, yeah.

19:45 So I love that whole vibe. I watched Felicity, which. I love that whole vibe as well of a young girl going off to college. That. That was exciting. But probably like somebody like Veronica Mars. Not that she's a great role model. I mean, but she's got the sarcasm. She's not afraid to speak her mind. I love. I love. I'm not like that. I do. I can't really eloquently speak my mind and confidently do it. If I do it, I kind of stammer and it loses its effectiveness. So I think that would probably be my answer at this moment.

20:30 If you could have everybody on the planet listen to one song, what song would it be?

20:35 Okay. You know, I don't know the names of songs.

20:40 I can't even think, is there a Specific song. Like you can even hum it and I'll figure it out.

20:49 I can't. I don't even know.

20:50 You don't know?

20:51 I can't.

20:51 Artist.

20:53 I listen to a lot of worship music, so. Favorite artist? I don't know. You're gonna have to help me because I don't know. Well, if you're my favorite artist.

21:06 Music, then I would say songs like. I think Gratitude is such a great song.

21:13 Yeah. And the one that you had to write about or you did.

21:17 Oh, all sufficient merit.

21:18 Yes.

21:20 I'd actually picked that song. But if you're talking about people with just a good voice, you've talked about Phil Collins, you've talked about.

21:26 Well, those are classic. Yeah. But.

21:29 You'Ve talked about the monkeys.

21:32 Yeah. There's this up and coming artist who isn't famous yet, but she's got a great voice. Her name is Amelia.

21:44 Oh, my gosh.

21:44 Lynn.

21:45 Oh, my gosh.

21:47 She's probably my favorite artist right now.

21:50 Okay, what is your favorite movie? Or pick. Pick one that just, you think has all the. Has the romance, it has the action, humor. Something that you think has all in one.

22:10 I don't know if there's an all in one. I used to say where the Heart Is was my favorite movie, and I still love it. I mean, I don't know. I can just put that on and I just. I just love it. Novalee. Novalee Nation. So that's one of my top. But I do love action movies. And you know, John Wick, the Accountant.

22:35 I think the Accountant is on my top 10.

22:38 Yeah. I mean, I love those kinds of movies. I like a good comedy and stuff and drama, but I don't know. Action, action is where I'm at right now. And I would still say where the Heart Is is probably one of my top movies.

22:59 It's a great movie. I like that movie a lot. I tend to like scenes from movies. And if I could put all my favorite scenes from movies together, it would be amazing.

23:10 Yeah.

23:10 Like from 50 First Dates when she's hitting the guy with the bat. What? Oh, I had a question and it totally slipped my mind. Oh. Can you describe to me your perfect, like, most relaxing perfect day to me? What?

23:33 Well, there's a scene in a movie where the girl is in a beauty pageant and the man asks her to describe her perfect date.

23:44 Oh.

23:45 And she gives an actual date and said day. I know you said day, but what did she say?

23:52 April.

23:53 She says April 6th or something. I don't know. Or something. Yeah, but you said perfect Day A, no drama, spending time with family. Like, one of my highlight days I can think of recently is when I got a kayaking gift for a gift. It was a gift and it was for a day of kayaking, lunch, etc. And so that was a really fun trip. Yeah. I mean, just to me, spending, other.

24:33 Than us getting in an accident, almost.

24:38 I would say, yeah. A nice family day spent spent with family. No drama, just enjoying spending time together with food involved. Yeah, good food. Good food involved.

24:51 Is there anything I don't know about you?

24:53 Oh, I'm absolutely certain there is, but. What? Gotta give me something. I don't know. I couldn't tell you that right now.

24:59 What is something you know? I don't know.

25:06 I stole a boy's wallet one time.

25:07 Are you serious?

25:08 Well, I didn't. I didn't technically steal it. I found it, but the kid was a bit of a jerk, so I didn't give it back to him.

25:19 How much was it?

25:21 $8.

25:21 Oh, well, that was a lot back then.

25:23 Yeah, I was in junior high, so, you know, I was happy to get anything. And I was. I am a good person and I was a good person, but this boy was mean and he teased me, and that's valid. And that was not one of my finer moments, but I do. I do. And then there was one time my friends and I ditched a girl at our grad night we had at Disney. And I still regret it to this day, and I feel bad. And so, Charmin, if you ever hear this, I apologize.

26:00 If you could say anything to say. If your grandkids listen to this or anything, what would you say to them?

26:08 Oh.

26:11 Or even great grandkids. Maybe they haven't met you or something.

26:18 There's so many things right now. I could say that you have a.

26:22 Good amount of time.

26:32 Wow. I would say I would love for all my grandkids and great grandkids to have a relationship with Jesus Christ and really seek him out. Don't believe what the world tells you. Always think for yourself and figure things out on your own. I mean, obviously you can have help, but, you know, research yourself and people will hurt you. Things will hurt you. Don't become bitter. Don't hold on to grudges. Love your family.

27:21 Good luck, Charlie.

27:22 Yeah. Yeah, I think. You know, I most likely won't be around very long to see them, but I wish I could be.

27:33 That's why she's.

27:36 You said great grandkids. Most likely I won't be for sure. Around I see them, I pull a Lore.

27:41 Lie. I'm joking. What is your. I guess I don't have to get into my questions, but can you say something about yourself that you want everyone to know? Like when you first meet someone, what is something you want everyone to know?

28:00 That's hard. That's a hard question. I don't know. You would answer that better. I don't know.

28:06 Well, if I could talk, I could tell people things about you. You know, almost every single actress from every single movie you.

28:14 I used to.

28:15 You're a great cook, even though you don't do it as much as I would like you to.

28:21 Well, thank you.

28:22 Yeah.

28:24 Gosh, when someone meets me, I would just hope that they would see that I'm genuine and that I'm not. I don't have to be like someone you're nervous around and that. I don't know. I don't know. It's kind of a hard question.

28:47 That makes sense. Is there anything else you'd like to say?

28:53 I don't think so.

28:55 I don't think so.

28:55 Is there anything else you want to ask?

28:57 I can't think.

28:58 I know it's hard to think.

29:03 What? I'm going to be selfish here. What is your favorite thing to do with me?

29:12 Oh, goodness. Well, I mean, if I could travel, if I had unlimited money, it would be travel the world, but obviously we don't have the money for that. But coffee, dates, watching movies or shows, neither one of us are huge shoppers. I think if we had the money to shop, it'd be fun.

29:36 Great.

29:40 But, yeah, I'd say our time out, grabbing something. I say coffee, but in our talks.

29:54 I personally love watching movies with you. Yeah.

29:57 Quality time.

29:57 Yeah. Okay, I'm going to ask.

29:59 And since I talked through all the.

30:00 Movies, then, yeah, I know, we pretty much. Oh, no. I was going to ask a question, but I forgot it. Hold on. Give me a second. I was looking at the sign on the door when I was about to ask. Oh, no, no, no. It's gone.

30:18 You were asking what I like to do with you.

30:22 Oh. Oh, oh. How are we the most alike?

30:24 Oh, my goodness. We're exactly alike. That's why we bug each other so much.

30:30 Yeah, but we also are different. I say I'm more extroverted.

30:34 I'm amrovert. But yes, you are your typical extrovert. I'd say our sarcasm, our attitude, which can cause us to butt heads.

30:49 Entertaining to the people watching the show.

30:53 We pretty much like the same types of things. Yeah, so I'd say definitely. Our attitudes, our sarcasm. I think our heart for God and our desire to serve in church and things.

31:20 Love of babies.

31:22 Yes.

31:24 If you had. If you could have another kid, would you do it?

31:27 If I was younger, yes. I probably would.

31:30 Really? Would you adopt?

31:32 I wouldn't mind adopting.

31:33 Oh, my gosh.

31:34 I could have another sim, but that. That train has left the station.

31:40 It's okay. Free babysitting on a moon.

31:45 Yeah. If we didn't. If I. You know, we didn't age, and I was young. Well, I guess I couldn't say we.

31:52 Didn'T age well, you know. Hold on. Give me a second. Hold on. Sarah had a baby?

32:00 Yes. Those were different times. I am not going to have a child at 90, I guarantee you that.

32:07 Well, you could. Good.

32:09 Yeah.

32:10 All right. Well, thank you for sitting down with me. Thank you for answering my question.

32:15 No problem.

32:16 Sorry to make you sit here for 30 minutes.

32:18 It's okay.

32:20 All right, well, goodbye and good luck, Charlie.