Janea Snyder and Donna Holmes

00:02 Hi, my name is Janae Snyder. I'm 41. Today is Wednesday, March. 31st, 2021. I reside in Little Rock, Arkansas, and I'm having a conversation with my mother.

00:17 Hello, my name is Donna Holmes. My age is 62. Today is March 31st, Wednesday, 2021 my location in Little Rock, Arkansas, and I'm having a conversation with my daughter Janae.

00:40 Okay. So today I have a series of questions for you, and I'm going to randomly can I give you the opportunity to pick a number 1 through 20 and we may not get to all of those questions. But if we can we can if not, but you can just randomly pick a number and 1 through 20 and I will read you. Your first question. What makes you happy?

01:13 Family family makes me happy because I have a large family. I come from a large family and from that family was 12 kids, eight boys, and four girls. And so I've always been surrounded by family and sharing time with family makes me happy is showing all the love that my mom and my grandmother passed down to us. And spending time with my grandkids. One thing that I did get from. My grandmother is the love of having kids. So from my generation 4 is my siblings.

02:07 And being a mother myself, having kids and back to my grand, down to my grandkids and I just saw more love as I went on from my siblings to my children into my grandkids and my grandkids told me that love is strong and it carries I guess I could say it hits you in the heart of your for you to share your love with your family and I

02:47 I feel like the lord gave me the grandkids, the right name when he said Grand. So I feel like my happiness is surrounded around my family, and that's what keeps me, happy. Hey, so, what's your next number? My new number will be four or what? Have you learned about yourself being a parent.

03:20 Being a parent.

03:23 I've learned a lot.

03:25 Down through the years.

03:28 Being a parent and a early age. When I had my first child, which was at 16 and it gave me more responsibility.

03:43 I didn't.

03:48 Prepare to be a parent. I thought that. Okay. I wanted to have a child. But once I became a parent, I just saw the responsibility of taking care of someone else.

04:05 And as I went,

04:09 Along my child, got older.

04:14 I said, I know, I have to provide for this person. It's not just me anymore.

04:22 And,

04:24 After that, I am.

04:27 I went to work.

04:30 And I said that I was going to get my child, the best of what I can give her.

04:36 And,

04:39 From that point.

04:43 I feel like it was important to take care of that child, because that child dependent on me. I decided to bring that child into the world.

04:53 So their child depended on me to take care of the feed at 2, to take care of it, to dress it in and basically raised that child to be another.

05:07 Is so important to show that child love.

05:12 When it comes to being a parent, you have so many challenges.

05:20 When you, when you become a parent because as a single parent.

05:27 When you have Italian piano that father to help you. But at that age, we were immature. We didn't know about what we supposed to do to be a parent.

05:45 Anna.

05:47 It was hard.

05:49 It was hard and after.

05:54 Heaven my oldest child, I begins, I had three oldest children, and still a single parent.

06:04 After that, I became I was married but still, I feel like I was a single parent because I was doing everything for my children. It's just a

06:22 Situation where you have to?

06:27 Grow up fast and stay like that. I had to grow up fast and stick to my gun. I put my feet down and said, I am the one that brought these children into the world.

06:39 And I feel like I should take care of and even though I did have a Little Help from the father.

06:47 I still feel like,

06:51 I was responsible to take care of those children.

06:55 And I feel like if I didn't do that. I looked myself as a failure.

07:07 But that was part of life, but I know one thing I did this is state to my M step to my guns and said this is what I'm going to do for my children, regardless of who came into my life.

07:23 I always put my kids first.

07:27 And I stick to my guns when it came to this.

07:33 So what's your next number? Minus number is 1515. Do you mind sharing about the last prayer you prayed?

07:51 Yes.

07:55 I recently went through a

08:00 Time where?

08:05 I was struggling.

08:08 And,

08:12 The prayer.

08:15 That I raised and I was asking God to help me get through this.

08:24 It was hard.

08:28 Because I had so many things coming.

08:33 To me and I had so many things.

08:41 I had on my mind.

08:44 A lot of family members that I have, they look to me as being

08:54 The person that you go to.

08:59 Even though I consider myself the middle person of the family.

09:10 I feel like I have up.

09:13 Lot of weight on my shoulders.

09:20 I prayed to God to help me to be able to bear.

09:28 Others burden.

09:32 Even though I had heard of them, my own.

09:39 I,

09:44 Not just my siblings are not just my children or I had friends and I have co-workers and

10:00 It gets people into me.

10:04 Asking me.

10:07 For help.

10:09 Anna.

10:13 It was hard. I just asked God to help me to be able.

10:20 To help the people that was asking me for help.

10:27 And,

10:30 To be able to hold on primitive, but I was going through all at the same time.

10:42 For some reason, like I said, I feel like since

10:47 I don't know if it's because of my.

10:51 Unsteady or my kind heart.

10:57 If people come to me, you know, to, just let it out or, you know, to just ask me your

11:09 Forget my feelings on what they're thinking of what they're going through.

11:16 I think it's

11:19 Play, God Gave Me That.

11:22 To make me stronger and I just prayed to ask him. Lord. Just help me to be able to go through all of this.

11:34 And I also asked him, why.

11:38 Why am I the one that you know have to go through all of it? And when I

11:48 Deal with all the stuff that I was going through.

11:52 Are you?

11:55 Yep, trying to help other people go through it. Made me depressed and

12:05 I had to pray and ask God to make me strong when it comes to do that and I always ask him. You know, why do I feel this way?

12:18 And why is life like this, you know?

12:25 It's hard. It's hard, but it was a good prayer and it was a prayer where?

12:32 I talked to God just like I'm talking to you right now in my relationship with him is so strong, I believe.

12:44 God always help me. I believe he's by here now and

12:52 I just feel so strongly about prayer.

12:56 And I know that prayer, always helps whatever.

13:02 That's when things get hard. When things get heavy.

13:08 You pray and ask God to help you and I believe strongly in prayer. Thank you for sharing that.

13:20 So you have answered questions, 2015 and 4. What's your next? Lucky? Number? Number? One. Number one, how would you like to be remembered?

13:33 Oh, it's a happy person. I would like to people to remember me as being happy at all times.

13:45 I would like to see people to know that I love them all. You know, forest all of that. I

13:57 Always look, like people remember that I was a strong child of God and loving mother, loving grandmother and loving in-laws, you know, I love all my family. So I would like to be remembered as a loving person.

14:21 And always.

14:24 I'd like about we told every time I speak to my kids grandkids or anyone. I always say remember to always keep God first.

14:35 Now, I want them to know that I want them to remember that.

14:44 My number one thing.

14:47 With them when I'm gone is to stay faithful and church. Stay faithful and deed.

14:58 A faithful person in, always believe that God is going to be with. You always believe that he's right there beside you.

15:07 And,

15:08 I just just want everyone to know that I love.

15:15 Lover in my love will never die when he comes to that.

15:25 What's your next member number is 6.

15:30 Giving this past year and the impact of covid-19. How do you think it has impacted your view on life?

15:40 Wow.

15:48 Made me.

15:54 It was scary.

16:02 Nancy on life.

16:07 It made me think a lot.

16:11 It made me look back on things, on the little bitty things, where

16:19 This is everyday thing like,

16:22 Life itself in the necessities of life, the things that we have that we don't have that.

16:35 Everything was shut down.

16:40 Who would have thought that the mall's doors stuck with would be closed because of the pandemic or something that affects not just our family, but the whole world. I don't think people realize when the pandemic came that.

17:06 It affected from the highest people in the world.

17:10 The Stars.

17:13 To the people that, you know, even the people that's homeless. If, you know, it affecting a lot of people in the whole world.

17:23 I didn't say that.

17:27 When the pandemic came, I didn't think about, I thought about O+, you know, I didn't think about the people that sing every day that make money, you know, stinging. I didn't think about the actors that make the movies. I didn't think about them. I think I thought they were okay until I realize that they were doing reruns because they've been a pandemic and they can't, they couldn't act. And that the singers, the singer's they couldn't sing, and they couldn't answer because it was a pandemic.

18:08 And I,

18:10 Read all my goodness.

18:13 Is shutting down the whole world, not just shutting down cities or people. Living single homes is shutting down the whole world and I looked at it like God is trying to tell us something.

18:30 He's trying to tell us something and I said,

18:34 That.

18:37 Something is not right. We have to

18:43 Pay attention to what's going on in the world to see that?

18:50 God is trying to tell us something. One thing. It did do is bring people closer.

19:01 It took so many.

19:04 Family members out of so many people's homes today that so many people are missing loved ones because of it and it was scary, very scary me myself going through. It was

19:27 I,

19:29 Started out with a headache and didn't think anything of it. And then the rest follows after losing taste and temperature. If you don't have a no temperature and just body aches is nothing.

19:53 The covid virus.

19:57 If you can't explain the feeling of when it comes, when you get sick, it's it's not

20:04 It's not like the flu in the body aches and everything is is hard on you heart on your body.

20:12 Oh.

20:14 I feel like,

20:17 If you some, if it's a learning experience.

20:24 You know, that don't take it serious, you know, but I feel like it changed a lot of when it came to looking at light bill.

20:38 You take life more. Seriously, you take family more serious, or you think about know how long are we going to be here? And so, it is changed a lot when it comes to taking a lie, but it did bring people closer. I guess, I'll say, okay, if you don't want to spend time with family, here we go. I'll fix that. But the main thing that I noticed, is that

21:11 It wasn't just the normal people in the world, that was affected. It was the whole world.

21:18 So what would your next number be?

21:22 If you could invite six famous people to dinner. Who would be 6? Lucky people be and why?

21:36 06 remix video.

21:40 6 famous people live with.

21:44 Invite.

21:46 I would have to invite.

21:50 Barack Obama and Michelle.

21:57 Joe, Biden, Kamala Harris, okay.

22:02 And other person I would like to invite with the

22:08 Alicia Keys.

22:21 Alicia Keys and who else I would? I invite

22:29 Ally Bank.

22:32 I have to do it another singer.

22:36 That is the one that I invite you and Bill Clinton. Would you guys have for dinner? What would the male be with the knife?

23:02 Salad vinaigrette, okay. And right? But it would be a nice evening. I would be

23:28 I'm said I'm not on the invite list. So your question. What's your next number? You have three remaining, seven, eight, nine, 10, 11, 12,

23:53 When you think in terms of your generation and compare it to today's generation, what has been the biggest change? You have witnessed disrespect disrespect my god when it comes to their elderly people.

24:26 They just I say you like this or some of them just is the household income.

24:49 The teaching of respecting your elders when it comes to children today.

24:59 That's the that's not the only thing but I feel that's the number one thing. Do the people in this respect the days children sometimes.

25:56 Sometime. When I heard somebody say something, especially when I hear parents.

26:02 Cursing their kids in the stores in the mall or in a restaurant and stuff like that. You know, I never I never liked anyone that cursed your kids and nobody.

26:26 I don't approve. I don't want to fool with it. So it is this a lot about that. What would your next number? Be? Let's say for Narnia. Answer for

26:47 Tuesday management, so you have three five, seven, eight nine, 10, 11 seven.

26:57 You have been a great role model in parenting. What advice do you have for your children when it comes to raising their kids?

27:08 I just say I give you a kiss.

27:13 Be true to yourself.

27:17 Be honest with your children, always give them the opportunity.

27:25 2.

27:27 Express themselves. Be a listener. Their point of view in.

27:43 Always listen you. No, listen to them. Don't be quick to judge when they say something.

27:51 When I was coming out, always wanted to let my kids more than I had my mom's house. So I wanted to give my kids at Freedom.

28:10 I think trust, I trust them to do.

28:16 What?

28:18 They say they're going to do.

28:20 I always communicated with always says, once you leave, you say, you're going to Sarah's house.

28:30 If you leave their house, call me and let me know that you even parents house. If you going over to Dennis house.

28:39 Once you get the Jeanette call me and say you made it. I didn't want to just keep up.

28:48 What you were doing? I just wanted to make sure you were safe and mine. So I feel like

28:57 You need to give your child. What's wrong?

29:04 But,

29:06 In today's society.

29:09 It's so much going on.

29:13 You.

29:15 If I had a child today.

29:21 I was giving the blame instead of, you know them, the freedom to go.

29:29 But I have to make them aware. It's a lot of

29:35 Track B jobs human trafficking going on.

29:41 And I'm not trying to keep up with you, but I want to know where you are.

29:47 We have cell phones now.

29:50 I want to know where you are.

29:53 I want you to put your

29:56 Location. I want to know where your location is.

30:03 Just like I said, if you wanted Sarah's house, you going to move to Janice house and I want your location to show that but if your location show somewhere else, then I'm leery.

30:16 You know, me. And I know something is not right if I call you then and you don't answer. Something is not right, but I want you to feel like I trust you. I'm not trying to keep up with you.

30:30 But I will keep you safe. So I always talk to your children. Just like, I yes you do.

30:44 I don't care what you do. I don't care what it is. I may not want to hear it.

30:54 But I will get back up. And listen. I'm going to listen to you, and I'm going to hear you out. We may cry during that time we made, but we going to work it out.

31:08 You have to be understand when it comes to your children.

31:16 You didn't have to pray. You have to pray. Never, leave prayer. Never leave real.

31:26 Thanks for sharing that advice.

31:29 So you have questions 8 through 11. You also have three and five.

31:35 In 13 and 14 and 16 through 19.

31:43 818.

31:47 Do you know the meaning of your name?

31:50 Yes, I do.

31:53 Well, I am so surprised that you know.

32:18 That's funny that you say that because I was going to ask, like, if you, if you didn't know, I was going to share it with you and if you felt that it described, so as I'm assuming you would say, yes.

32:48 Okay. So what's your next question that you would like to see you have 8 through 11, you have 13 and 14. You have 616 and 17 and 19. And number three, and five, three number three. If this was to be our very last conversation, is there anything you want to say to me?

33:24 I would want you to know that I love you so very much.

33:30 And I want you to know that I love my family. So very much. And I want you to know that. I'm so proud of you. Thank you. I am very proud of you.

33:44 I look at you, and I say, Janae.

33:49 My baby girls.

33:52 And I said, she's done so much.

33:57 I'm so proud of you because of you being a single mother or yourself started out.

34:06 And the things that you have accomplished in your life.

34:12 Going to school graduated from school on the college.

34:18 Graduating from college becoming a professor.

34:23 It's like you keep moving up. You keep soaring and I feel like

34:32 Your eagle and God is got his

34:37 You're still awake. You just use your wings are Broad and you're flying in the air and it's no stopping you. I'm so proud of all your accomplishments.

34:54 And for you to come this far,

35:00 And have.

35:03 Your children and especially the last three years when you had your twins when you care to twins, when I think you were going to make it through that and I pray that God help you saved you and the babies.

35:24 And even though,

35:27 You had some tough times, you fought through it and I heard about you all the time. You will carry them all the time. You were these last three years because I know it's been tough. And I feel like there was a challenge that God gave you and you done awesome and you have been awesome with that challenge and

35:58 Because of you and you and you guys it's like

36:05 When I had Crystal and I knew I had to take care of her and I feel like you and Bill said, okay, you got these twins, and we're going to have to take care of it and

36:21 You know, even though we came and helped, I don't feel like I'm helping with this much as, you know, you need it. And I feel like times that you, you said, no, we're okay. I knew you wasn't, okay. And, but you sort through that, you sort through it, and I know that

36:43 I look at it like this, something they're going to get older and they're going to get better and he's going to get easier. And I said, I'm so proud of her all of this and having these babies and and she still doing her work. You still.

37:07 The Bobby teaching and all of his stuff, being a mom, being a wife in the household. And so I feel like

37:18 You deserve a number, one award, number one, Mama war with fireworks. I feel like

37:31 You're strong strong, strong woman from, you know, that that your struggle, this mess, you know, this last 3 years and dealing with your college about you and I love you, even though I don't get over here as often as I do need to, I want to come like that.

38:17 I just want you to know that I love you and that my love for you is just as much love as I do everybody else and I don't have a favorite. I love you all the same and I just want to make sure that you know that I love you even though I don't get to see you as much as I want to, I want you to know that I love you.

38:51 So you have questions, 3 5 8 9 10 11 or 5? Okay, as a teenager or a child as a child or teenager, who was your famous Crush?

39:07 Michael Jackson. And so today, who would be your famous Crush?

39:30 Where is it? Still? Michael Jackson. Rock Obama? I wouldn't be mad at that. So let's see. Question. 16 17 19. What is your favorite season?

40:11 I like the fall.

40:14 Because this job,

40:18 How old is? This is comfortable. Whether you use a few more days and you get a few cute, cool days, and and then I like you too.

40:39 It's just been my favorite time of the year because you're not too hot and you're not too cold. But the beauty of the earth is what I was supposed to fall like that.

40:56 Okay, so you have questions, number 3, 8 and 9.

41:03 Let's go with 3, okay.

41:07 Is this was all know you've already answered them. Sorry. So, okay, if you were to give advice to me, or others in our family, what would it be?

41:25 Advice.

41:28 It would be.

41:37 Life is too short.

41:42 This is what I would say. Life is too short to hold grudges.

41:49 Love the person, loved the people in your life.

41:56 Even though.

41:59 You have had fallen out. You know, you have a falling out.

42:05 But always remember that as family you love each other.

42:16 When you have grudges.

42:18 Against each other.

42:22 One person may go on about their life.

42:26 And you still here with this garage grandma and that person is gone, but you making yourself sick because you still mad. So, your body is breaking down because you still hot about something that it was probably simple or something, somebody said, but when it comes to family,

42:51 Always remember you love that person.

42:55 First love that person in stuff or things.

43:00 You could get over.

43:05 Even though something bad was said, learn to forgive.

43:13 I know people say I'm a forgiving, but I won't forget, but it if your heart if your heart.

43:24 Begin.

43:26 It won't come back on.

43:29 And I'm guarantee you you not going to forget it. But if you're hard, forgive, if you get forgiven from your heart, then

43:39 It would be on you be, okay.

43:43 But always learn to love. Always love.

43:48 Your sibling. Your family. Always love family.

43:54 Always support family.

43:57 Always take care of family,, you can't, but

44:03 Whatever you can just always stay focused on taking care of yourself and family. I love that.

44:17 Okay.

44:19 We have a few more questions.

44:29 Number 8, 10 11 number 2 when you meet God.

44:40 What would be the first thing you might say?

44:46 Thank you.

44:51 Thank you, Lord, for giving me this opportunity.

44:56 Thank you. God, for taking care of me, throughout my life.

45:04 I was just have to say, thank you very much and makes me tear up.

45:14 That makes me tear up.

45:21 Phone number 12. 13. 15 16.

45:29 What have you learned from Life, the most important things?

45:37 Most important things in life.

45:43 Number one is help you taking care of yourself. I have learned that in order for you to live a long life. You have to take care of the body with the Lord.

46:03 I've learned that even though we were raised on.

46:07 Always at second grade and all of that stuff even though that was good.

46:16 The Braves will Good. The Bad fat?

46:25 I feel like,

46:30 African American people. We look at I feel like straps.

46:37 You get a pig?

46:41 Okay, we couldn't afford the bacon. So we get 10 years or the South me, you know.

46:58 Or the chipman's, you know, it was, you know, there's leftovers would we could afford pork chops? So we got to chill and I feel like that.

47:11 Alone.

47:14 Hurry up. We came to

47:17 Work is not good.

47:28 Our diet. Didn't help us. So him, I would say.

47:39 And,

47:42 I feel that.

47:48 I forgot the question.

47:53 That's one thing. As the most important things that you've learned learning about.

48:02 Keeping faith in God learning about God. It's another thing. I feel like this number one thing in this world because no one day, if we want to die. I am learning. The Bible itself is a very interesting learning about how the Christie early Christians and learning about how we were created created.

48:38 And how everything else was created in this world, or the Bible tells us these things. So that's a very important thing in life is important.

48:55 Okay. Well, thanks for sharing that so question. We have 8 10, 13, 15 and 16. What was your very first job?

49:11 My very first job was at a what we call him. I'll stay in the house and I did.

49:23 Hot dog and it was a summer job. I had some.

49:32 A job that I had was my sister my oldest sister help me to get it in.

49:41 She helped me to.

49:44 I think I was like 13, so it was like, um,

49:51 I guess a summer job and I worked about a month, I guess. And we sold corn dogs, chili dog, Burgers. It was like a stand and we

50:10 Ice cream in snow cones and then call them and

50:16 But I really enjoy this job, but they kind of paid me under the table.

50:30 15th Street, if I can. Remember your uncle 15th Street over by

50:39 What college was said in, remember the name and they will come over if you want to watch Ironman?

50:56 Evening mostly, but it was

51:07 Itsfunneh.

51:12 Lucy, 8 + 10.

51:16 Import. Okay, if you were granted one wish that would come true. What would it be?

51:28 You are granted one wish and it would come true. What would it be?

51:37 I think I want my mom back. I miss my mom a lot. It would be like this afternoon.

51:52 Only thing I can think of right now, if I had a wish will come true. Thanks for sharing that.

52:08 Okay, so number 8, 13 and 14 13. What has been a show that you have been lately.

52:21 It's called Saving Hope, Saving Hope.

52:28 It's about.

52:32 It's about will its doctors in it, and it's kind of like a resident, but it's

52:42 People come in, and they're like, in a comatose state and

52:51 They could see themselves, they can see themselves.

53:02 A ramp going around in the hospital.

53:10 Are talking to each one, each each other. And

53:18 Try. I bet it's my favorite one person will survive and come out of it and some people don't people coming in and they have worked, and they'll be there. But they all talk to each other and that person may not make it so that person dies last night. It was a guy that came in this other guy. He's in a coma. And this young guy he came in and it's got it, which is the older person was talking to the guy that has been said he's in some type of game. You got to go.

54:18 Tacoma because you're not fighting hard enough. Okay. So the guy that was there was there. I would have got him. I had never heard of that and what is it on?

54:53 Okay, so number 8, and 14 or it maybe, yeah, 8 and 14 are your last two 14? Well, I know that you're a lady. The question is, how would you describe yourself?

55:15 I could say.

55:20 Very honest and kind-hearted and

55:28 Very likable. Very and

55:32 Very loving. Very I have I say, I'm about 5 605 and I have black and gray hair and I wear glasses, and my body is the normal steak. I love it myself.

56:21 Girl, you don't look good. I'm always say very last question. Number 8 is, what is your dream vacation?

56:42 Dream vacation is going to Hawaii, Hawaii advertisement, and I feel like that's one place. I just got home.

57:10 Do I leave here before? I meet you kick back and relax. I would love to visit Hawaii as well. So maybe we can go together Sunday for your time and sharing and answering all of these questions your love. I've learned a lot.

57:52 Thank you.