Marilyn Reudelhuber, David Reudelhuber, and Mark Reudelhuber

00:02 Hi, I'm Rudy Riedel Huber. I'm 48 years old. Today's date is January 30th, 2019. We're in Orlando, Florida and my relationship with David and Marilyn said they are my parents.

00:20 I'm Maryland Riedel Huber. I'm 74.

00:24 Today is January 30th 2019. We're in Orlando, Florida and my relationship to my partners are I'm Rudy's or marks. Mom and David's wife.

00:42 David reudelhuber and it's 76 and today's date is January 30th 2019. And where in Orlando, Florida relationship to

01:02 Partner, is it through my wife?

01:08 And Rudi's mom.

01:11 Bad

01:16 Alright, well, thanks for being here today. And I'm glad we prepped a little bit my brother and sister Matt and Karen can't be here today, but they we texted about different questions and one of the things that they suggested that we talked about and start with make sure we cover his new our relationship and and how you met and some things like that. So I just thought I was wondering if you could tell me about how you met each other.

01:59 We were both still at Florida State University at the time and

02:07 Howard

02:09 Better a class with organic chemistry

02:23 Discussion.

02:26 Courses we were taking and

02:32 We were both taking a physiology lab answer both pre-med students.

02:44 And

02:46 Today, I really got to meet this this girl so I can talk to her normally and doing some analysis of urine samples and

03:08 And

03:11 Realize that I did not know it was thinking too much about her and not about that. I had in front of me, so I would

03:25 Talking to the door about some of the results which I work.

03:29 Very well and

03:34 Decided to ask her help going to work out why my data wasn't coming in correctly. We met over a glass of over glasses of urine urine classes.

04:00 Set my samples. Anyway, I'm surprised your own your own results that you could ask her for help. Okay, we were each drinking different solutions to see what it would do to the chemical analysis of urine. So every 30 minutes. We were collecting your own urine and he did not drink his solution which will and I work for hours trying to figure out why this result for coming out, but we did meet so things went up hill from there.

04:38 We went to the Lyon County State Fair carnival. Like you're almost exact same in Atlanta. And so when I remember poor guy is that we rewrote something that went round and round and round and it really made him sick, which is not exactly how I guy wants to impress their date on their first date. But anyway, it was the Linn County Fair. I'm on my first day was Susan at the carnival or Fair the

05:22 We went to there was one of those like, you know, throw the darts at the balloon to win the thing and I decided that I was going to get the big just keep going till I got the big furry bear.

05:36 And the Kearney just read me like a book and ended up taking $120 of my money for this.

05:45 I was. They are scratchy.

05:54 Hate story. So so you're at FSU and then at the end you did that. When when did you come to Orlando to Winter Park to teach was that app was that in between was that in between FSU and moving to Atlanta for Emory was that we weren't together. He went to dental school from Florida State and I have been in pre-med and when I realized that probably he was going to ask me to marry him. I realized I probably didn't want to go to medical school. And so I stayed in graduate school at Florida State to pick up my graduate degree in chemistry and biology and at the same time I picked up credits to teach so when I finish my master's degree

06:50 I had practice talk with a teacher of the year here at Winter Park High School and the principal approached me and asked me if I wanted to teach and so I came back to Orlando to teach and then in the meantime, we had gotten engaged. So while I was teaching at Winter Park High School

07:12 He was in dental school and we were engaged at that point. One of my favorite stories. Mom was just you know, and this was Winter Park before, you know in Orlando before Disney was here and tell me about the the house that you stood the the single mother and what happened and tell can you tell me the lantern saying I found a room to rent from the parent of another FSU Student a girl and so I came down and not having met her but she was a single mom. She was Filipino. She was beautiful and she had a 12 year old son, and she was in the ballroom dancing and said she would go out every night in ballroom dance. And so I kind of tended and stayed with the Sun at 1.

08:12 When she asked me if she if I would mind taking care of that the young man while she went to the Philippines to visit her family. I said sure and so she went

08:25 And she didn't come back when she should have and then she didn't come back and she didn't come back and I I really really began to wonder if she was ever going to come back. He was a very nice kid.

08:37 But it was it was interesting being 21 years old and 12 year old long was before she returned. It was about two and a half months. So then you ended up going to Atlanta. What was it like Dad? What was tell me about dental school and tell me about how many job MC ride to have and how you ended up paying for? How are you able to afford to go to school?

09:20 Good questions. I haven't thought through that was recently.

09:29 Norton the Summers road ahead

09:33 It had worked in loading freight train line, but for a while and then

09:42 After being it

09:44 Summer summer school started

09:50 School of Dentistry had some things you could take them.

09:58 After we got married he he did not go in load trucks in the summer.

10:03 My salary and

10:06 You held several part-time jobs while you're in town school, which were what what they were.

10:15 She's me. What were your part-time jobs?

10:20 Back in the lab at a job at st. Joseph's hospital and in the blood lab and they basically just assume that I knew everything some reason I didn't see the connection at all the end sticking revolver blood and what was it like working at Grady Hospital on a full moon?

10:50 We we actually went down there and then days off of work just to sit and watch the action cleaned up a little ramp within the ambulances and the swing in and roll the guy out of the ambulance and then run and go get it to get another one somewhere and it was

11:14 An interesting time we lived in University Apartments, which are really no longer there off of Clairmont Road. If you remember why I don't know if you remember where that is, and so it was full of University students and

11:31 Which was nice we could afford any furniture. So we rented a living room sofa and chair and one of our wedding presents from I guess from my parents was a bad. We didn't have a bad and we use the card table for our dining room table and card that was had been his parents. So it was like 40 years old.

11:57 And

11:59 I had a sewing machine that I used to make curtains and stuff like that upholster the chairs and

12:07 Tell me about when you when you couldn't what happened. When you didn't you were I think at the end of dental school you said that to you or short on funds one-time hot. What happened with?

12:21 Your you're you mentioned you had a colleague that I was teaching at Walker High School in my department head with Earl Wilson and David. He came home one day and said well he had some unexpected didn't hear some lab fees unpaid lab wasn't it will have to be sunny.

12:39 It was just a bill for everything just $300 but back then that was a ton of money. And so we didn't have of course, there's $100 because we didn't even buy a pack of gum.

12:56 Because it cost a nickel. But anyway, I was telling my department head or Wilson about this innocent of Chino is really a lot of money. I don't know where we going to get it and he was married to another teacher and they didn't have any children and but the next day he came in and said I've been talking to an and we would like to give you $300 so that you can pay your bills and that has always been so touching to me because we only had this professional relationship essentially at school and I didn't know him personally and well we had been over to his house. Once he photography was a hobby of his and he had us over and

13:47 Took some really nice photos of the two of us. So we hadn't had that personal experience and

13:56 But anyway, so I went home and told David that and in the meantime, he had gone to the bank and secured a loan to pay off the school bill, so I didn't have to take him up on it. But I've always been touched by his generosity.

14:14 And then years later we lived.

14:17 I'm in Tucker. Georgia would just suburb of Atlanta and we will go over to the mall and walk which is near our house and I ran into Earl Wilson walking there early one morning. And so it was really really cool to reconnect with him that way on one thing that I know is important during that time like Donald school and tell me dad. I know I skip this I should have asked you before but tell me how you became Christian.

14:51 Living in New York for a while at night with men with my dad. So tired of this further south Pompano Beach and

15:09 But I was still a pretty strong New Yorker if you met me you probably think this guy's from New York.

15:24 Christian part comes in that I started a junior college when they get some courses that you can in the summer in.

15:36 Involved

15:42 There's a guy who came to class everyday with the Bible.

15:51 Asking the guy Wyatt. Why did I bring this to school? This is not appropriate for us and especially for a chemistry class and he said he just talked it answered and bigger questions.

16:29 That's must be for some class your day in from school, and he said

16:35 That might say it was for the school of life. So I said well.

16:41 I'd like to talk to you some more about that. I know what your what your thinking is. And so we did that sort of meeting you and talking over the next couple weeks and dumb.

16:58 I guess a little bit older but it said he had become a Christian who started a company making it the chairs that you sit on.

17:08 Charter fishing boats Warren said resonated with me and what I wanted to do and then in the morning, yeah, and so I told him okay have it went ahead and

17:37 Did what you said get down on my knees and prayed and

17:44 It was a star, but he said why don't you

17:49 Come over. We had at 9 like an botany course or something anyway and said why don't you come over and read the chapter and and discuss it if you want and

18:05 Was it interesting cuz they had two kids and was going to school full-time and a business and I think

18:16 Knows what he's doing stuff life was ordered. Yes. Tell me about going out in the woods and

18:36 Anyway, you can you like quit smoking and somebody asked you about why you quit smoking a woman or something. Maybe I'm just remembering it. Was that the most spiritual experience that you ever had when you that first prayer do you think as you look back over your life?

19:00 Yeah, I think that that

19:03 Set the course of my life and why is that?

19:11 It would have been a lot different if that had not happened.

19:19 But do we have the game friends instead to look up other courses?

19:27 So we both saw each other and dimes would study together.

19:36 Adult

19:42 I've had been able to reconnect trailer have to try to use that when the bill the got the big heavyset guy to send Africa that went to Africa Eric Miller. Tell him you're doing well. So

20:10 I wanted to

20:13 Shift a little bit and talk on my love for you. If you could I was thinking that I'd really like to talk about Michael. Oh Michael Michaels my brother. He was born in 1953 and he was born with Down Syndrome. I was 8 years old at the time.

20:35 Of course didn't know it Down syndrome was but the way I was introduced to it was one evening. I heard our mother out in the hallway outside my bedroom just crying so I went out and asked her what was wrong and she the way she explained it to me. I've always been thankful for because she said well your little brother.

20:59 Is going to be very special he is not going to be able to learn as quickly as other children and we're going he can't expect him to do what other children his age does an art our job is to love him and help him and help him learn to do these things and to take care of him. And so

21:25 As the years and it was very difficult because even when he was born it took 2 days for the do doctors to diagnose him. We had a next door neighbor who was my third grade teacher and she was a wonderful woman. Mrs. Metcalf way past retirement age.

21:46 And she was a wonderful resource for my mom in how to love and take care of this child because nothing existed back then and my father was a professor and as we move this was in Gainesville Florida and then move to different universities around the state and all the different towns that we lived in Gainesville, Tallahassee, Miami, Boca Raton everywhere, they lived they started a school for special education and retarded citizens and my father and mother were instrumental in starting the Florida says back then it was called the Florida Association for retarded citizens.

22:37 And they actually started that you know what the time when when he was born in 1953 the average lifespan of someone with Down Syndrome was only 10 years and end a the doctors.

22:55 Suggested that they not take him home, right? I from the sorry. Thank you for reminding me the doctors told my parents not to even bring him home that wouldn't be fair to my sister and me and that it would require too much care that would cheat us out of love and attention I guess but my parents were adamant about bringing him home back then the only place they had for retarded citizens were insane asylums.

23:22 And them

23:24 Luckily my parents were

23:27 Adamant about he has always lived with Sam. Well, he's since passed away, but he always lived with family except for a few years. He wanted to try a group home. So we found a group home in DeLand that was wonderful, but he got tired of that because he was used to tailgating at FSU games and hang with family and you know hanging hanging with all he live with RC my sister Hurst his sister for the longest time. She as a result of her relationship with Michael went into special ed. What was his impact on on your life and your family's life.

24:09 Well, he's just a great big bundle of unconditional love he.

24:16 Down syndrome people are traditionally very affectionate and

24:21 He's sub he well, I think you made me aware of weaker people.

24:30 And so I tend to you know, if I'm around somebody who has a disability or a week or person rather than ignoring them. I tend to approach the more, you know interact with him. Maybe I wouldn't do that if it hadn't been for Michael, I mean that and being a Christian.

24:59 I haven't heard people say woke you grew up in a dysfunctional family and I just can't see that. I mean I grew up in a loving family. I don't see it as dysfunctional and he had a role in in life. I mean he spread love wherever he went and

25:18 If he hadn't existed, I feel like the world would have been.

25:22 Not as great a place near Hughes such a special guy.

25:29 And he loved his nieces and nephews the number one. You know, that was Matt's thing the business card that said my he always wanted business cards. So your brother.

25:42 For Christmas one year made him a business card that said Michael Nicholas number one ankle and the list kept growing isn't family group.

25:53 Great-uncle and yeah

26:00 So I thought I would ask some more questions.

26:09 Dad

26:12 As you look back on your life and you think about

26:18 You know all the

26:22 Wonderful experiences you've had in that kind of thing. What what what are you proudest of

26:34 Herbie

26:36 I'm trying to Summer it up.

26:40 Someday, I'd like to hear the words. Well done good and faithful servant.

26:48 Panda

26:52 Hard to be consistent are to be taken some environments.

27:00 But

27:02 Job from here on out. I see it is.

27:07 Couraging people that

27:11 P.m.

27:13 I guess with the Bible was a bondservant, which is someone who's closer to being a Slave.

27:25 Very interesting to see how things evolve now.

27:34 For both of you, how how has have your lives been different than what you imagined or what you expected.

27:45 But when I was young

27:48 I wanted to be a doctor. I want to be a pediatrician and I thought that was all the way through college and

27:56 But then when I realized I was going to get married I decided that I wanted to be a stay-at-home mom. So I chose not to work or not to go to medical school or or you know, I did teach for a couple years while he was in David was in the middle school, but

28:16 I chose was fortunate enough economically to be able to stay at home and be a homemaker and that was doing a time to when women weren't really valued for doing that the Equal Rights Amendment. I mean the Equal Rights Amendment for women was in the Forefront like the culture was telling you should be in the workplace right that your value was dependent upon.

28:46 Your role in society whatever job you had as a Berliner ride economically and

28:55 Well, I'm fine Want to Thank You For You know, it's not easy. I probably physically and emotionally might have been easier to go to work. I had a young woman and strangely enough. I really enjoy teaching but we had a young woman in our neighborhood has stayed home to be a mom and an in Atlanta and she finally back to where she says too hard. They know isn't Susan dreams about it. It's a big job.

29:47 Dad, what is the secret to being a good a good husband?

29:58 Well

30:00 I'm not sure. It's a secret. I think most people know.

30:06 Life is awesome.

30:13 Being consistent with the judgments you pass on others those in this judgment that Ali you'll be held accountable to

30:24 Now I've heard people ask him that and he would say loving God is the most important thing you can do as a husband and father.

30:39 Love God and love you guys.

30:45 For your great-great-grandchildren that may listen to this years from now. What what wisdom would you want to pass on to them or what would you or would you really like them to know?

31:09 Well

31:14 I don't know how people make it through life without God in their lives. I really don't without Christ.

31:22 I didn't become a Christian till I was dating your dad and he led me to the Lord.

31:29 And following the precepts that are set forth in the Bible. The Bible is just one great big love story that God gave us and in this and he wants the best for us. And so

31:47 To have the best life that you can have. I think following the biblical principles that are set forth in the scriptures.

32:01 Would probably be the most basic advice. I would give to his wife can be pretty confusing. Yeah, and so if you have a guideline, it's just a guideline to have how to have a successful peaceful and Joyful Joyful life. Love story between God and Humanity.

32:30 And

32:32 What?

32:34 What do you think your future holds?

32:43 Well, as one of the guys wait, we've moved into this retirement community call Westminster. And one of the guys said you realize we're in the fourth quarter. Somebody else said we could be in the 2-minute warning death is looming before us and I think like anything that you've never been through. You're a little apprehensive of that. So, I mean you're scared of anything you've never done before my first day teaching or whatever. So

33:19 I have lost my track. What was your question? What what is your future called? Well, yeah meaning God.

33:27 That's an n and M.

33:33 Being with our grandchildren as long as we can and children by the way. How would you answer that?

33:43 It's good trying to live everyday, you know as Faithfully as we can to each other and to God.

33:50 Well, I really want you know before we wrap up. I definitely want to make sure that I say thank you for being such wonderful parents. And I know that you made me on big sacrifices and when I was young, I don't think that I

34:09 Well, we appreciate you too. We really do. I don't think I appreciated it. I think when you're young you don't realize how to say that I thank you for you know, the sacrifices that you made and the lessons that you taught us and and I'm really grateful that you were able to move here last year that we can spend time together. We are two.

34:37 It never felt like a sacrifice honey dinner.

34:41 Not to me. He really sometimes I want to change my name from Mom call me June Call Me Jane anything--but mom right now, but honestly it never felt like a sacrifice. It was a joy.

35:01 What we may have a couple more minutes and I and I and I just thought that I would ask a couple things one. Just your memories are any childhood memories that you just wanted to share.

35:21 What about growing up in New York City as a kid on the train railroad? What tell us why you were on the car? What? What about Fred?

35:42 We lived in Queens and they committed.

35:46 In the work when we went when we were on the road in for a number of years we were on the road, but he said I need to be home or at the super job. If you would ride the train with him in the van to like Chicago and California and places right Shades that you can raise up and down or

36:14 Faith makes things start so you could sleep and I wake up early and look at it on Roosevelt Boulevard.

36:31 But anyway, that was a I can't even eat.

36:38 Or it may be a little sentimental, but it was kind of fun with waiting and I couldn't wait to get to a get in the train car at the door again.

36:49 How is your your bed up for you?

36:53 And I've never been on a train trip.

36:57 Have to get him to go with me sometime.

37:01 That was back when you can walk across Central Park with

37:08 All alone at night at 2 a.m. And nobody would ever bother you.

37:15 Can I grew up in a rural area? So roll a Small Town, Alabama?

37:23 Totally different from New York city, so I had totally different. I played outside all the time and

37:32 Cowboys and Indian land

37:37 Definitely wasn't wasn't a city dweller.

37:42 We didn't even have a television till.

37:46 I was in the 6 or 7th grade you had a TV pretty early on in you day in the city.

38:04 So

38:08 In terms of

38:11 I guess just in terms of

38:16 People who's been in your life mom when you were young like who was the biggest influence on you? Do you think growing up?

38:29 Probably my father. My father was an academic. He was quiet. He was loving.

38:39 He encouraged me even back then. I mean long time ago.

38:46 To do and be whatever I wanted to be and very supportive.

38:53 I think we're running coming to the end. And so I just wanted to thank you for making the time to get together and do this and I'm so glad that we did it and thank you for taking the red eye from California to be here. Oh my goodness.