Nel Steffens, Victoria Steffens, and Steven Steffens

00:04 I'm Mill Stephanie. I'm 70 today's date is Saturday, July 25th, 2020. Where in Birch Bay Washington, and I'm going to be here talking with you with my husband Steven and my daughter tour.

00:20 And hi, I'm Tori Stephens. I'm 32. Today's date is Saturday, July 25th, 2020. I'm in birthday with my parents, but I live in Bellingham.

00:33 I'm going to be talking to my parents today and they are my mother and father.

00:42 Hi, I'm Steve steffens and I'm almost 70 years old also live with her and living Birch Bay Washington with tell my wife.

01:02 And I'm here talking to the two of them in the three of us are really a trio of family and really best friends waiting three of us a unit which brings us to the whole start. I think these covid-19 has think it's important to get some sort of record for anybody who cares later to get a sense of what this isn't like. This is just awful and surreal.

01:45 Really brings out our inner.

01:50 Nature's and forcing us to look at ourselves and do some introspection and figure out who play Tori is really a key player in this whole thing and Nell and Ice reaction this because of what she did the way she reacted the first week or so of of the pandemic and it was just incredible that all of a sudden in Washington state where they had the first outbreak. The first thing we heard has these are the things that you need to do now and it was really right on point and Tori took it to heart and she managed us on that you spell yeah. I know Tori you were really

02:41 Really the one point in the interview man like that point that we were the ones going to go see her friends and your son for the first week or so or more that she says you guys don't leave the house unless you have all this stuff.

03:41 Pick up with masks and hand sanitizer and

03:48 Wipes in this sort of thing and every place we went and this was is Washington State. The first week has happened before all the sudden everybody's were mess with the timing that you were with friends at a bar in downtown Bellingham the Friday before you went on lockdown.

04:16 And I didn't really want to go but I thought you know, whatever we have to live our lives. So I'll do it. I'll go hang out with them have a drink.

04:26 I walked in and my friend tried to give me a hug and I backed up and said no, I don't want to do that. And she said that bigoted bill. This is not a joke, and I don't want to put my parents at risk because I want to have a drink with friends. So

05:04 I'm your child that your kind of my children too. And I want to take care of you. And that was just before I remember I was all excited because okay thrilling ham. So thrilling hamas's great zombie dance thing that use the Michael Jackson dance to Thriller that happens only in Bellingham on Halloween and I was so excited because I got to be on the team to plan it this year and we were going to march in the Saint Patrick's Day Parade, of course, the parade was cancelled and so I stayed parade was cancelled our governor.

05:58 Put the walk down in place on March 23rd.

06:04 So yeah.

06:11 And since that time it's just as it turns out we were in the midst of constructing a new house and we

06:20 Occupied the house about the same time when all this happens in this house is separated from

06:28 A lot of other it's in that remote area, which is really good. I just can't imagine how bad would be for people in New York City and other places where they have no Outlet to get away from other people who?

06:43 Might be infected.

06:56 Do all of this stuff that first week, but we always wear mess. We always have this was going to be a long time and I know there are plenty of people thinking I never believed.

07:23 Okay, good and

07:35 Ethan and I know they're talking about vaccines and it does sound promising

08:09 I don't know. Yeah, I'm hotel but you've been lucky both of you because you have been able to keep your job. I'm very grateful, but I kept my job and though some of the remote work that I've had is not the most exciting.

08:34 If so, that is exchanged. It has been quite a bit.

08:48 Intense

08:59 Try to try to make yourself useful wondering what you can but you know.

09:11 Close to normal. I'm just so glad that you have had a lawyer who understands your value so much that they are going to make sure that you have to work if I appreciate that and they're they're just good people. I work with really good people and they are not only concerned about.

09:36 Well being my friend.

09:50 The love that they ask me if I'm bored you have enough to do. Are you bored? We don't want you to leave because we've lost good Engineers because they don't feel like they're being utilized. So you're feeling bored. We can send you something might not be billable, but

10:11 It'll be on overhead, but we want you to be.

10:15 The peel useful. I'm so glad you chose to get very glad you came into my life.

10:38 Has been a really good thing during this whole thing to

10:49 Just lonely.

10:55 Heart rate during cold. Well, I tried that one date a socially distant date at the beach.

11:08 The person was not

11:11 He's very interested interesting person a lot of baggage that I did not want to take on.

11:24 I am not a fan of virtual or socially distant dating.

11:32 With my kitties for now.

11:44 I think one of those things for me is just watching.

11:48 During this the type of work it in public works at the Lummi Indian Nation reservation break into me in the county.

12:04 How this has affected the data and basically there is like four times higher than caucasians.

12:24 Others and I see it as I go to work and see people are really vulnerable protective steps or where I work in the administration. They absolutely require Mass every Wednesday. They shut down the entire building and they require Mass. They have sleep and ever since they are that first week. They've had somebody at the front door. It's still still there.

13:16 But they've done and I think an exemplary job and trying to control same thing that we've seen the places fix the problem.

13:36 Take me to bring family oriented. So probably your elders.

14:16 I'm sad that we lived right here that we moved to Bellingham well because of your job initially, but here we are we can see Canada from our living room window, but we can't pandemic.

14:45 Hardly said that Americans.

14:49 Can't figure out how to just put a mask on and

14:54 Keep everybody safe yesterday at Costco.

15:07 Very nice young woman who barely a Costco employee who's handing out face masks to everyone and she's very quite very professional and these two old farts walk in with clearly.

15:24 Thumbing their noses at everyone with these masks on that are made of nylon netting one layer of nylon netting

15:36 Yeah, like that's going to stop anything. And so this nice woman was trying to get them to take.

15:44 Face mask to do something and I think the guy finally took one but he had it on his thumb to you. We're just going to hang out here for a while and it's very sad.

16:11 No, it's not going to cause health issues having a mask on.

16:20 Is a way to show people that you care about them. No, it's not. It's not the end-all.

16:35 Dalton the answer to this virus, but just wear a mask and try to stop the spread. Do your part to try to stop the spread. I do know that I am happier now six months into this than I thought I would be I'm enjoying being at home.

17:03 Doing the little bit that I can anyway, I'm surprised strange that we've talked about is the fact that we can't travel is that all of our Lives now and I have tried to make sure that we travel in our kids or three kids.

17:30 Do adults and traveled to see as much of the world is possible. And so the Restriction now that you know, it's a big constraint to us that we can't even go 8 miles across the border and let alone

17:57 I wanted to ask during this session that after.

18:03 After what we tried to do traveling the stuff. How did that how do you feel about that Tori through your life?

18:16 Will let you

18:18 Family road trips

18:20 Although I don't

18:23 Clearly remember most random things.

18:55 I'm yes, I'm sorry about that. I'm sorry, but I'm not sorry.

19:05 Thank you for not booting us out of the van, Highway.

19:12 Burgundy highlights or Travis 213 had the honor of getting sick.

19:37 Yeah, the one that's the one with the street the book to any way before we done to Denny's because you always like that and you and I were the only ones who had that the cantaloupe it was one of those. Nobody else has the both of us.

20:31 Stop morning and both of them. Should we were in the middle of Louisa, May Alcott bedroom floor second floor at your face in the screen and just let us get out of the house.

21:03 Down the stairs at the top of the historic stairs.

21:21 In parenting, baby

21:33 People

21:39 What I remember is when we went to London and we got off the plane and we have an apartment reserved at Earls Court Square long was the flight attendant and so it was a cheap travel to Earl's Court station, but then we had no idea where this is just so here. We are like a bunch of family of ducks going around the neighborhood with me and now I'm fronting the three kids and back each of us travel thing and we go around and around and finally this lady was watching this so she sticks her head out the door and says,

22:26 Are you claustrophobic walk by the number?

22:44 With Tori and I could remember her cat and she when she had

22:49 Black trench coat kind of stupid and

23:01 So we were able to go on a trip. So remember to save money I had gone to I don't know Goodwill and whatever trying to find and I was obsessed and certain the way to travel in London and Paris were black.

23:17 Because I know it is from you are coming cuz it's way too big for onlyfans. So I got the smallest cute on you and she was always the one in back shoulder bags.

23:50 A new Travelpro suitcase into the Imperial museum in London and we were there looking around this person. The Museum's no. No, it's a museum music.

24:19 You know, my dad was stationed here in World War II and I know don't have any idea where you're stationed except that. He was a pay Master for the American actor Jimmy Stewart just so she took us upstairs Airfield where my dad was stationed World War II and all the stuff information on how we don't really remember the entire Museum.

25:02 Jimmy Stewart Shakespeare was the line of old people waiting to go in and we walked in and I don't know I didn't see the line. I didn't know we had this everybody else and the very nice woman with straight ahead of everybody in at that point. I'm going night the knights Chapel.

26:02 And then there was that was our second visit to Westminster Abbey before we went there to see it and it was the Queen's Commonwealth day. And so we're able to carry on my shoulders and she was able to see the queen band.

26:25 Charles Charles that was so it was after that. So remember the pictures aren't very clear all these travels.

26:59 Blueberries

27:09 I have for breakfast.

27:21 Travel to British Columbia, but I don't know how to report such thing of blueberries and then

27:44 Go back across the border you have to declare if you have fresh fruit, and I have the kids in the back. I would have maybe just declined to mention the kids can hear and they would have known that I was lying. So we do we pulled over to the side that I made everybody. We couldn't finish them all but everybody has a smashed. Please do baby.

28:28 Do I still love him?

28:39 Really? I just don't like the texture or The Taste but sure you want me to say?

28:52 I love you, honey. Bee right now. I love you, but I don't like you right now.

29:01 Yeah, great trip funny. Everybody in Paris was smoking disgusting and then I became quite interesting cuz neither one of us.

30:01 So what are the Canadians that's why YouTube, Germany?

30:24 French or Spanish?

30:29 End

30:31 One more thing. I want to throw it cuz just needs to be recorded when you and I were traveling to go see Evelyn.

30:41 When she was first born, so we did our cross-country just Tori and pickles.

31:07 Silly friends

31:13 Thank you for that. I had a very good childhood. Well, I can guarantee that that will happen how has your life been different since from well?

31:51 From what I imagined

31:54 I don't know. My whole life is been just

31:57 I never had any I never pictured myself at any given point is just been going from one thing to another.

32:05 Experiencing things. I don't know if I can say that I imagined anything when I

32:15 It's just better.

32:22 I like the airlines some of them have the hub-and-spoke and some of them just kind of.

32:31 On my way. Stings was like oh this is better for you.

32:40 But I thought I would be an actor or actress.

32:44 I guess actors Denver.

32:52 High School obsessed with movies in them better at the techie stuff. So

33:08 I went from that to wanting to be a journalist.

33:12 The first time I went to college and I went to college in college.

33:39 So very different from what I thought I would be when I was fourteen actually it when I was 14, I was quite different now. I'm not a professional or how fast could use go. I don't remember. I don't remember. I remember they say, well we never heard that one fish gutter think that I would be

34:31 Partly because I was so rebellious when I was a teenager. I thought they want me to be an engineer with my parents are right about everything.

34:46 And that's like to tell that you bought me with how's your life going? Novelist famous actress?

35:26 Look up a dancer and I didn't think myself having kids in the family, but I didn't I didn't want kids.

35:57 Puppies and kittens and it was shaky on the puppy. So I don't know if you know, I really couldn't imagine life without you.

36:14 Please save us all the time when people say I'm so grateful that I had you and the kids, but I wouldn't be so I would not be here. So thank you for having me.

36:35 I wouldn't be sad if you didn't.

36:44 Interesting, I mean talking about imagine yourself doing things that I think one time when I really

36:53 Everything and then it was really

36:59 Is HAARP 2018?

37:03 It was like my whole world shifted to where I put my stock in the rainbow.

37:10 The type of engineer that I would be in what I accomplished in everything in the find out that that was her.

37:24 Second shift

37:28 Point-to-point instead of covering scope

37:47 I don't think the Broncos in your place.

37:53 Well, we had actually isn't that sad we were not doing well.

38:08 Maybe give us a better team next year be nice and we can travel again though.

38:16 Where should we go first when we can travel again, Canada Europe?

38:33 Well, I don't know are there ever going to be any cruises again?