Nothing is being done because of the stigma.
Recorded November 30, 2017 Archived November 30, 2017 06:24 minutes
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DescriptionChad: Bill who was misusing drugs in your family?
Bill: In my family, my youngest son Steven.
Chad: how did you find out about his addiction?
Bill: uhm… there were some red flags that went up my wife was doing wash found a, a little, mini tuba ware container like a key chain tuba ware container that you would, that would be used to hold pills like an asprin or an ibuprofen or something like that. I went out and took that tuba ware container to a lab, tested it for 25 dollars came back. Told me it was an opioid. A Percocet oxycotton or Vicodin or something.
Chad: ok, did they ever lie to you about their addiction?
Bill: oh yeah,the addict usually the last person to realize their an addict. So, they will tell you they don’t have a problem, but they will lie about everything else where there going, what they are doing. We were very lucky my son pinched me for 60 dollars that one time.
Chad: Did uhh Steven ever get angry, or physical during his addiction?
Bill: No, we were lucky there also uhm.. never physical would get angry, but never knock down drag out no fights like that screaming and yelling… Very lucky, we were very fortunate I mean it was bad
Chad: How did you and your family cope during his addiction how did you guys cope as a family?
Bill: difficult, now we were fortunate that my older son was away at college and after college he you know he moved right out he never really came home so he didn’t have to, he didn’t really have to experience a lot of the uhm.. the, the sadness uhm… my wife and I you know we we prayed a lot… I went to support groups I became an advocate she was slow to become and advocate I just figured that if I expect him to do what he is supposed to do and, and, and go into recovery then I should be doing what I’m doing I should be helping other people.
Chad: What do you believe was uh Steven’s turning point that made him want sobriety?
Bill: Well i.. he obviously hit a bottom.
Chad: Where did Steven go for treatment?
Bill: uhhh… he went to outpatient treatment several times up here in New Jersey, Maryville, rehab after work uhm.. kennedy… uhm… health systems and then down in Florida he’s been to inpatient treatment twice down there in uhm west palm beach and in uhm deer and and uhm pompano beach and then his last time he did some outpatient in del ray beach. And then… yea that was the last time that was that was that was about five years five months ago.
Chad: What stuck with you and your family from this?
Bill: The main thing that sticks to me.. is right now is there are more people suffering from this than you think not just the addicts, but families. Everybody thinks old school addiction everybody thinks some low life homeless person living under a bridge from a broken home you know that’s that’s that’s not the addict of today its now it’s now all its not in your inner cities really it’s in your suburbs middle class people that think because of the shame of the disease they’re not going to do anything about it, and that is the big eye opener is that the reason why nothing is being done is because of this stigma, and we have to reverse that we have to get people to be more open about it. So, I didn’t realize that these that narcotics were being sold in pharmacies with a doctor’s note. That would be my second biggest thing that my wife and I took away from this. And that’s what I go. I go into schools I talk to parents I give lots of presentations and that’s one of my main things is that there are highly addictive drugs that your doctor can write a prescript… not just your doctor your dentist can write a prescription for. For… for pain and the pain might not even be there you know you get you get a tooth pulled they write you a prescription for Percocet you might not even be in pain or maybe you could handle that pain with ibuprofen or aspirin, but they’re just so quick to write the prescription for the opioids.
Chad: Bill is there any message, or anything you would like to say?
Bill: I would say this to the to the family suffering in silence… of which there are many for every person like me that’s open towards this and will talk about it freely in any form including the public forum … there are fifty people maybe even 100 people who won’t talk about it at all that a family member is going through this and that’s the problem and we have to get people beyond this because people are suffering, families are suffering, and people are dying more people die from this than car accidents now matter of fact it is the leading cause of death for anybody under age 50 in the United States we have to get past this we have to come out of the closet and we have to be active in this if not… the suffering is going to continue and then the secondary message is like I said to you before is realize that you know addiction starts in your medicine cabinet. you know it’s, it’s, it’s the pills that lead to the heroin their the same thing their both opioids nobody goes in to the inner city and says let me try heroin… today that’s a very small percentage of people maybe 1 out of 10 people you know 9 out of 10 opioid addicts start with the pills first and then they move to heroin when they can’t afford the pills anymore either their doctor cuts them off or the pills become too expensive on the street, and heroin is very inexpensive. So, I think.. I think for the people who are already or already have a family member in active addiction they have to be stronger and come out of the closet they have to they have to get past the stigma and the shame and be active and for the people that don’t have a family member they have to realize that hey this could happen to anybody 1 in 5 people that try these opioids will be… get addicted or become dependent on them and realize that their not that safe their not as safe as everybody thought they were these opioids Percocet oxycotton Vicodin whatever… whatever, brand you want to identify them by.