Tina Dalcour and John Dalcour
Recorded March 5, 2020 Archived March 19, 2020 36:36 minutes
0:00 / 0:00
DescriptionTina Dalcour (69) speaks to her son John Dalcour (43) about her career in the United States Army, being married to an Army husband and raising children, and memories of moving to White Sands, New Mexico.
Subject Log / Time Code
TD recalls the lack of opportunities available to women in the 1960s, and deciding to join the Army when college was not an option.
TD shares memories of basic training in Alabama, and speaks about another service member named Olga who became a good friend. TD speaks about the old rules regarding marriage and pregnancy in the Army.
TD recalls meeting her husband in the Army, and giving birth to JD.
TD speaks about what people learn from the military experience: how to work through pain, and how to work together towards a goal. TD shares moments from basic training that remind her of this, but mentions the flip side from military experience: people’s reluctance to admit when they need help.
TD speaks about the most difficult moments of her military career, when her husband was involved in Desert Shield and Desert Storm. TD and JD remember writing letters and making VHS tapes for him, and TD remembers her reluctance to tell him about her struggles parenting their children by herself.
TD remembers going to Florida on vacation when her husband returned. TD recalls financial struggles, and the difficulty of finding care for JD after he was expelled from preschool.
TD talks about her husband’s trauma from combat duty, and her own perspective with the death toll from war.
TD remembers being in Belgium while her husband was stationed there, and shares a memory from vacation in Italy when JD was thought to be lost.
TD and JD remember moving to White Sands. TD speaks about her preference for asking veterans “Is there anything I can do for you today?” vs. telling them “Thank you for your service,” which she says feels empty.