Tonya Brooks and Sonya Haynes

00:03 94 years old today is Wednesday, August 11th. I'm leaving to my friend Sonia.

00:23 And my name is Sonya Haynes. I'm 48. Today is Wednesday, August 11th, 2021. I'm located in Rochester, New York. I'm speaking with Tanya, a friend of mine that I met many years ago. So I'm honored to have the opportunity to have this conversation with her.

00:45 Tonya. Why don't you tell us why we are doing this recording today? Asked me to provide and they do radiation for any American Beyond.

01:12 Generation that, okay, so who has made the biggest impact on your life and what is one thing they talking?

01:23 Shelby. Montana. Grandmother.

01:38 That was everything. Okay. Is to delete that.

02:01 Could you describe what you think our obligations are as human beings to other human being? I really do. That is not this.

02:48 When you doubt me at me.

02:55 Person that may need a kind word or maybe just you know something of these day for some nice classic and that made me look that person and help him for the rest of that day or maybe on Samuel for Dunedin housing and you know that so that's what you were created at that moment.

03:37 Could you describe a moment where you could have done better?

03:43 He's a lot of moments but being present for my family.

03:51 I come from a family that is very heavy into education and career. And so I started early. I was Nineteen when I had my first child and I can try to get that education, try to do better try to do things. But as I was going to Community Education, I was in church. I was in high school. I was working.

04:16 But I was there and I was multitasking, which I was supposed to be present, but I wasn't meant to be there. I could have been a better mother, a better wife, better daughter, a better sister, a better front, and I would mentally been there.

04:39 What trait do you most admire in yourself? My ability to connect? I could be anywhere. I do give you add a 1-minute. Monologue. Can I make stick pretzels and need my other one up there? Cuz I got her anniversary are the same time as his parents and we want to know if you got any more exposed to any place and I'll engage not working at the looking for bad hair.

05:21 What about a trait that you most wish you could change about yourself?

05:29 Let me say that the best way.

05:33 A single moment, a single thing to have a Conger results for me. Some I could do one thing and I will never ever talk to that person again and that is so awful. You know, I didn't just say that I have I have people that are cool and I was thinking you want and I really don't care. They could be an HR position with you know, I started to have been traded as dumb. A lot of the first one I met. But yeah, so you have a good memory. Okay? No.

06:26 Remember what they did but they did say, okay, what are some of the most important lessons you've learned in life?

06:37 Haha, God, honor.

06:41 I know where you at every single stage in matters in, create your destiny.

06:50 The added value. Why were you at? And now you and it could be on a date, could be just a vinyl listening ear. I could be having a conversation, could be happening above gist of value to everyone.

07:09 Listening. Morrow, everywhere you everywhere, you go. Cuz it's always something that you can learn, you know, because whatever you learned, you use it before you die. Every single thing that you can learn is for you to use before you pass the sir. And the last one is in breaks, the journey, the good and the bad and bracelet.

07:41 How has your life been different than what? You'd imagine?

07:47 From kindergarten to ninth grade. I just assumed and imagine me running the next big company, not collect the next company and I was going to be that that wasn't going to be married. I had never thought of being married. I never thought of having kids and I had a plan where my siblings Peconic birthday and visit and then I will have anybody up for Thanksgiving. That would be the bridge and go. Okay, and it's not like that at all and we buried everywhere I go to be underfoot. Now, you do my kids come back and forth and they use me as a safe spot for my entire family.

08:47 When my dog is not happy mom, kind of person. I am happy.

09:09 But if not,

09:11 Mine is a lot harder. It's a lot harder than I ever imagined.

09:17 So describe your immediate family. So there is my husband, a calling my boo, and then there is so much for kids and I so special black when I called him on it for 2 years, you know, we hold each other out and then write happy connected life is mine. My siblings and my husband siblings made this big.

09:50 Monkey Ball candy.

10:10 Do you have any regrets?

10:13 I have one major. I wish that I went to a HBCU, right? I didn't, I don't care which one. I wish I would have went and I wish I was getting my kids, and I regret it because I come from Rochester, New York, which is predominantly white teachers. It wasn't until the black experience, the black holness, the blacklaw. They're under my HTC. You, we didn't have any knowledge of what a private white school supplies that happens in a species that I wouldn't. Even when I come across people who have not finished at HBCU. They still have that song.

11:13 Station out at massage.

11:20 Even line connection connection. Like your family is so big because if I go get my PC,

11:37 So, when you were younger in, did you have specific HBCU in mind that you wanted to attend Clark, but I know that wasn't happening cuz all girls

12:03 It was mine. And so you didn't go, when you graduated high school. What did you do, instead? I have my son and my son and me, and my husband thought it was better, that we be in the area where we have family right now. You are. So we need to be somewhere with somebody could help us the first like child for you or for his grandson. He was a firm in this in Rochester. A flame in Reverse by the registered nurse. We had to slide actually

12:59 You're pregnant now for future generations of your family, listening to this years from now. Is there any wisdom you want to pass on to them with the first thing is even as I was saying that I have my son and my family is the worst thing that could happen to get sick and he was in the hospital and my mama came down here. So that regret its there. Always a light spot, but I go back to the other question. Where you at?

13:59 Did it count anything that has happened to me here in Rochester? I don't.

14:05 Take away. Anything that would have been done it to me. I am doing everything that has happened, you know, even the good, the bad, the ugly, until I grew up in Hanover House, but, you know, I came from the East side, where the riots about stuff that happened right around the corner, to the first met with her and ever existed in the city of Rochester. I own my own home at 21. I own a car that I do not need my husband always had a job without income, but we had a lot of bad things happen because you were teenagers.

15:06 Embrace it wrong permit. Honor it

15:10 Write a lesson in Cherry. I remember that you were here for. That reason, could be today. I could be tomorrow. Don't look for the future. That's another thing. Don't don't live for tomorrow. Do not do that live for today. Still have your gold and your dreaming mind to live for today. Don't let the day go by our house.

15:33 Looking at your gratitude with that and also know who we are.

15:43 No waiting chainsaw. I know my grandmother. I know my great-grandmother. I do my great-great-grandfather. I know the line that I came down on the good.

15:53 This is my grandfather. The bad witch is not my great grandpa. I don't like the story of it. But I know, you know, you can tell me. I could tell you where I came from. A part of our family, can't be the type of pie. We can't know, we are Know Who You Are.

16:31 How old is anybody? Any explanation of who I am. Don't don't sell yourself. Don't sell yourself and bring it to Journey on yourself and the story on your space and have it out on you.

16:48 Okay, so

16:51 When you think of all of your life's journey needs and honoring your values honoring where you are being present, appreciating. You know, who stay, are you wearing? You should be. I think I should be today in my where I'm going to be tomorrow. No, I'm just part of the journey. I know there's more out there. I know that I created four more. Just making sure I kept the next up, even if the stuff is wrong, doesn't matter if it's wrong. If the guys wrong you correct, it just take this out. So my next stop will be outside a lot faster and Next Step will be in a different communities. You know, what can you do? I don't know, resumes out their applications for Kraft who was out there whenever snap me out back on.

17:47 The day I was supposed to be the guy don't make mistakes. Am I where I'm going to end? Absolutely.

17:56 Okay. Is there anything else that you can think of you want to share one of us and that it put on there? What am I? Okay. I want to say about a my friend song by Pro.

18:12 Before I just turned, like, one of my life, I just went along and I do not suppose to get nose married, electric, your mom that you did. That kind of like Optimal on you. You know, I didn't really do a fly. And then he was born and his mom and she had a girl, she had, she had her car. She's going to do it. All right, if I stepped out on the job.

18:51 And I said, I would like a year to year old taught me. What life is all about? Eli little fire, you love me.

19:17 She read night of my life and he put me back on this, on the path for the journey with this is not the end of this is not the end. This is just the beginning to keep the God. So this is his friend forever grateful and gave me a home. No setup. Is anyone discover lesser races all over again and get ready for what?

20:05 If you make a fool of yourself.

20:15 I think that we did.

20:23 He just did it for me.

20:28 No more drinking and where that come from. I have no idea that he picked mine and his grandson.

21:03 Just call me Nancy after blue, and everybody calls me Nancy.

21:09 I know who you are, or what you call me. Okay.

21:16 Anything else?

21:23 Now, I do have a question for you. How do you say?

21:29 So my friend Tanya, I see you as a woman who is full of values and ideas. I've always always thought of you as a person who could walk into a situation or a meeting or an event or something, see the bigger picture and be able to address whatever was laughing. So, you know, let's say if it was a project at work that needed to be addressed or you know, something where he's trying to figure out a strategy or something.

22:17 I've never met anyone that could really, I don't see the way that you do. You have a very unique perspective for my though, from what I think about. You have a very unique perspective in your able to see things. So, when you talk about being a CEO of world, she's already doing that because you have the ability like very succinctly. And in a way that really focuses on, whatever the heart of the matter is. Let's get right to the heart of the matter. Let's get right to the payment address.

22:56 That's how I see it. And then also now, you know, it's interesting that was years ago, working the it and now, knowing you as a friend, but in a different capacity, more outside of work, so seeing you, as the person who brought her Rochester, you know, seeing you as a person who can administer Zekrom and

23:24 Almost like a mother hen watching over everyone. Encouraging, you know, getting the best out. I really appreciate your willingness to give up yourself. Like you said that we're here to meet the needs of others for tell someone else to fill their purpose. So that will help, you know, just shut their perspective. It's almost like how you said that your grandson helped. You see things differently. It's it's like I see now that different Tanya, okay.

24:13 I think we're done.