Betty Standfill and Tiffany Laposi

00:04 My name is Tiffany. Lepozzi. I am 40 years old August 7th 2011. I'm in Tri-Cities Washington and I am Betty's daughter who I will be interviewing.

00:20 My name is Barry stanphill. I'm 66 years old. My birthday is January 3rd. 1945. I'm sorry. Today is August 7th 2011 and we are in Tri-Cities Washington. And Tiffany is my daughter.

00:41 I was looking at the question list and I just saw the one that I think that everyone will love and you can just pick one if you or a couple would become a little bit it says do you remember any of the songs you used to sing to me? And if you could sing them now and I know that you know a lot of songs that used to sing to us and we'd sing in the car and to stand out in my mind. We are you want me to say I would love for you? Okay on Mondays, we have bread and gravy on Tuesdays. It's gravy and bread on Wednesdays and Thursdays. It's gravy and toast that's nothing but gravy and bread on Fridays. It's dry bread and gravy on Saturday whole wheat instead. But Sunday is a treat. We always get meat and gravy without any bread. That is great.

01:41 Testing the whole song It's awfully long, but it is Mon Power Cell. And so are they woke me up one night. There was an awful fussing. Mama said Paul was right.

01:54 They was awaiting sister Beth's who never kept her word sun come up in Basking in and this is what I heard slap her down again paw slap her down again maker tell us more tell us where she spent and it just kind of goes on and on from there. I know there's tons of others, but I'd appreciate you so that's great.

02:24 I guess you know.

02:26 I've listened to storycorps quite a bit through NPR and in you know, you didn't you have never heard of it until I mentioned it to you that.

02:36 I just thought it'd be really neat to have some kind of.

02:40 But this recording for my siblings and myself for later in life when you know when we'd night. I had to say it when we don't have you with us and and

02:55 Vetter is there anything you could say about me being each child that they could have, you know when they arrive I guess I'd have to start with Steve because he was a first born and just

03:10 I will crush. This is who you know, he was riding a bicycle at 2 and it's never stopped. He wrote in last night from Portland on his bicycle. He 282 miles and 3 1/2 days is that that's the person married to move down two motorcycles, but he's just laid back and not serious about anything and he's just a great kid. And then Todd who is the next one is some

03:38 It really fun laughing and stuff. But he's just very very serious about his own personal goals and stuff like that and having things nice and there's so much alike and yet they're so different and then after Tod Jennifer came along like 6 years later and was my little girl that I wanted since I was probably 12 years old and Jennifer is just there something special about Jennifer and all her brothers and sisters agree that you can't say her name or think about Jennifer that smile. She's 41 years old and she's

04:18 So naive and so just something really special about her. She's very very just very sweet girl. And then after her you came like 11 months later and you were always been the feisty one not afraid to speak your mind not afraid to say what you're thinking and it's been a really it's been a really good thing. And after all of you were born I had six of you at home you were I would call out names and I get them confused and I start calling you Tiffany change Smith when you were a teenager. We actually got you a t-shirt. I remember that always call you Tiffany Jean Smith. I remember a bunch of the kids at school. Actually thought I had a gorilla in front of us are tomboy just

05:09 She was a tomboy from day one. She only played with the boys and just a sweetheart very giving and very generous.

05:19 Trellis just throw up and jump through a bad time here recently and has come out of it and

05:27 Start a whole new life, which is which is really good cuz we were concerned about her for a while and she is all had our support and I think everybody showed it.

05:37 And then came the baby many years later Kathleen and Kathleen by the I I didn't work when you kids were little until Kathleen the day. She actually the day she started kindergarten I went to work and she I was think of it as she must have raised herself because she was an adult by the time she was seven or eight and she just

06:00 Has an exciting career and it just keeps getting better and better and better and is there's just no stopping her. She's very opinionated but in a different way than Tiffany the fact that would Tiffany tells you something actually for your own well-being if she thinks it should be different. I mean, she's looking at it thinking it would prove to be easier. If you did this this why you shouldn't do that. It's really stupid. They will just call you up and tell you what you need to do with your life at any point during the day.

06:32 She's just really something all the kids have children except arella.

06:39 And Todd didn't have children. He married a girl here about 10 years ago that had to they're teenagers now, but all together we have 12 and everybody's good parents.

06:52 It's just been really good. Anyway there everybody's driving right now. So it's a good thing and I am the only one that has grandchildren now, and I know I'm going to have to great room if you have two great-granddaughters. Is there anything you'd want them to know? I'm I'm hoping you know my grandma. Luckily my children got to grow up with my grandmother.

07:18 And

07:20 Are there great grandmother? I should say I'm sorry their great-grandmother and you know, and I hope that for my my my grandchildren and if there was anything you wanted to say to them. Well Mackenzie Mackenzie is just

07:36 Did you get my age you can't get away from?

07:39 Taking care of all my life so busy or even paying that much attention. I'm afraid to the little ones but little McKenzie is so special. I mean, I haven't liked a child. I cannot tell you probably since I had my first wet as much as I like MacKenzie little Sofia's just seven months. She's not me and she doesn't really like me. She just doesn't really doesn't she's kind of scared. She's pretty I think maybe cuz I don't see her often enough. She doesn't remember but but then you go back to when her Aunt Jackie came in her. She's only seen

08:18 Has she ever seen her don't think so a week ago. Jackie couldn't get rid of the child. So I don't know but Sophia and I will grow together. Yes, but MacKenzie's really is really special to me if she's just the greatest. Yeah. She I look at her and it makes me happy and sad at the same time because she's just the spitting image of her mother at that age and it is so sweet and that she's just now she is a really sweet girl. Is there anything you could tell me about? I know you are really special relationship is seem like with your dad and I you know, I don't

09:01 And I was just wondering maybe you could talk about that. I think your kids think that Tuesday because I I speak highly of him and I was going to surprise you and I just always already have a wonderful and gentle and sweetie was I didn't really know my dad. You know how grandma was and Grandma ran our household and Daddy went to work came home and worked in the garden and us kids. I mean we've loved and we followed him around stuff, but I really can't say that I knew that he was closer to Dorothy. I was closer to mother and he was closer to Dorothy always talked to him every night before you went to bed. It always say

09:42 Give me a Smacker. I really just stuff that really that my mother told me many things, but he doesn't talk about evil or 17 when he was a baby lyrics Avicii coping with mother that and you had to just one little one by then.

10:20 Daddy has some cousins of a really close to but his parents we didn't I didn't know them at all. They were gone from this morning. Is there something I mean, I know you were saying about Grandma.

10:35 Grandma was at like the matriarch of a tomboy, you know, and she recently lost her. This was a year ago year ago now has been year.

10:53 And

10:55 She was 92.

10:59 Scuse me 93 and you just never thought I would ever ever leave us, but I know it seemed like at the last few years. You guys got even closer. Maybe I'm not sure that we did. We did. She ever really forgave me for leaving that area. I Met Your Mother if you're born and where you stay there, that's the way she looked at things and you know, she had a friend that used to bring her quite often up and then

11:36 Stupid finger when he come except Todd and Jackie would bring her.

11:40 And I will try to go for the last year. I want a lot and I hide least every 2 or 3 months you want to go down and stuff and when I would go what she want to do is take drive and go to see all these places and you're 4 weeks ago or wish she used to going and mother had this thing about cemeteries on Memorial Day. You didn't miss it and you were not in good Steve with her if you did and there was two that we'd go to it occasionally there was a third one, but it was just because it was an old one in I think it was probably people her parents do a really old one that we go to the now the view one for the whites and then go to slide you pray for the Moors and with tons of flowers all out of her off her light up Tree in her snowball tree her PO Neeson.

12:30 Yeah, last time I took her for a drive after she moved into the home. She wanted to go to Columbia tie and see the old Columbia time meal. So we the old International Paper Mill we profile and I just kept driving and she said are we still on Columbia tie? And I said, yeah, I want to go up there by that. I think they caught like if something like Susu damn herself that wasn't a damn. It was just a place people and fish Tucson, maybe I don't know anyway.

13:01 It was there it was a hunting season in the road got narrower and narrower and we were I was getting very nervous because I couldn't turn around. I was almost afraid to back up and then we start running into Hunters course all the guns. I was glad mother couldn't see it because I was very nervous for finally. We got to spot. I thought I could get turn around and we did and we would come out and we got back to eye. She said well that certainly made me nervous. I don't know why you drove up there the whole time. I was just chatting to talk into my own our not thinking so she wouldn't notice cuz it had to realize and then she said well that probably wasn't a good idea if they are definitely wasn't a good idea. She loves to go for the rides and Steve.

13:46 It was kind of a loner in some ways and we always had this thing that

13:53 Each grandchild my sister has 9 and my brother has for my brother.

14:02 If

14:04 Naughty, okay and

14:08 Everyone always said Each one would say that they were Grandma's favorite and they would harass her about it. Well one of mine's worse. I mean truly believed it and which was relics. She truly believed. She was Gavin's favorite, but I think if Grandma would add a favorite it was probably said it had to be stable job. But anyways, so whenever I go wherever she was working where he was at motorcycle race. I took her the Nationals last year when he was there just drive up if she could see him 10 minutes. Now, she was happy. She's very proud of him. And if you remembered her memorial service last year about four of the grandkids stood up and said and they'd always done in their hearts that they were the favourite and then when a

14:54 Person who they didn't even know that used to work with Grandma many years ago set up and announced that she she was a younger girl, but that she was the favorite. But yeah, it's just always been up.

15:08 Yeah.

15:12 Her name of Florence fight. She was The Unofficial mayor of Amboy and she was born there her parents that lived there in until five years ago. She still lived in the house that her Daddy had which was her.

15:30 Emma's with Daddy's parents house and then or on the place. They had they had they had rented out the big house phone and she had a small house there and mother would not leave Amboy and when she would needed to go to a assisted living. She actually was in a private home. They had about four patients there and she was about five miles away. So she was happy and my sister would go get her in the day time to take her home and she let her stay home in the daytime at her house. She never gave up her house, but about 2 years ago.

16:06 The people sold out and bought a bigger place about 20 miles away in a different town and mother said she couldn't go cuz she couldn't leave Amboy.

16:15 Well

16:17 She had become so attached to him though, and they were very good to her that she did end up going and she was fine. But mother was for somebody that never drove.

16:27 Went and saw so many things. I mean friends or relatives or whatever would take her places take her on vacations and after she was in the home.

16:38 They were hanging out there most the time. I'm in there. Was it just that she had company everyday. In fact, sometimes I think the people around a little irritated because it had to upset their schedule and young people not just older people there weren't many of the old-timers left. There isn't any of that most her friends were got young people would come and yeah, she just she was a character. She was I remember I'm at at her funeral everybody was talking about her how story is in in about things that she did or help them or you know,

17:13 Great person she is and she is she was really great person that I remember as a child and I and I end up standing up and and telling everybody I said, you know that.

17:24 But actually she was a very mean woman she was so strict. And so then she said they were her friend through a lot different than you end up being and that two grandchildren set Stephen Jeffers side because like they never could do any wrong. But Kathleen my youngest and Dorothy's youngest girl could see we're probably the two that she was the worst too because they were sold fiery, you know, but as they got older they were the two that we going to see her and do stuff and she's not Hospital Kathleen or on the way there get there before the cabinets. Would it just funny how it turned out cuz they were the two that she was the worst to yeah, and they they I think they kept waiting for her to be nice to them because I know that she still has kind of mean to Cassidy that you can win there when she take her somewhere or she makes some comment like about her weight.

18:24 Something just be about it. I don't know it's 5 so I can spend five years ago Kathleen. It had Aiden. He was a few months old and she saw Grandma and at the hospital one night and she said for you put on a lot of weight and Kathy said Grandma, I just had a baby and she's what you do with it it for several days. I remember I'm a story it and I I can't resist with Kathy and and her daughter Madison.

19:03 They were talking on the radio actually about things kids say and things like that and Kathy couldn't resist so she called in and she said with this with my daughter said to me and it was

19:16 I remember like him or what it was. She told her that they she just picked her up from her father and and her father just remarried and Maddie said yeah Mom. She goes, you know, it's really cool now cuz I have I have two moms. I have a skinny mom and a pretty mom Kathy said she just couldn't believe it and in the end the lady that she was talking to on the radio. She said she really said she's got something she said quite a few neat little things over time, but that was a lie converter covered, but she came up with the pretty so that was pretty cool.

20:06 And she is pretty

20:11 And I would like to talk about Dad. I mean I don't I don't want to leave that out and I am could you just tell us how you guys met maybe or

20:21 My first husband died. We had some really good friends named Jim and Paula and

20:27 We just did everything together in the for was love to dance and I mean we just got to dinner and dance every weekend anyway to Kampala got divorced.

20:37 And done

20:38 Paula remained our friend will then peacock hilt.

20:43 And so later.

20:46 Paula had told me about this guy that she had met in anyway.

20:50 He was dad's brother Gary uncle Gary and they end up getting married when we get married. We end up being sister-in-laws mention your first husband and which is Todd and Steve's dad Pete. It was a car accident social Owen Tri-Cities. Wow. Okay, I didn't know that. I was just relate the music. I think really pulled me in because as you know, Tiffany, I mean he said, thanks so beautiful and

21:30 Concert played the Bandit wish it was a really exciting life for a long time. It was hard on your kids. I know and we moved around a lot because of the music and because of his work that he did and then we finally in 81 we come to Waitsburg got your kids in school and knew we had to stop and I was 31 years ago. We just stayed there be quit playing music and we just stayed once thought it was just too hard moving your kids around. Yeah. I remember I'm but a lot of my best memories though or are being at those events that he staying at and my in the most Vivid, I don't remember actually a lot of it was a tired of it was always good but I think one of the times that I was so proud us if you remember

22:12 When Arsenal water got married. Yeah, and he sang at their wedding.

22:20 And I glanced out there and I've stopped people from Waitsburg that we normally went and they were actually their mouths were open. I'll never forget that I was so proud of you. It was they were just too many kids that have my liver hurting you don't they didn't go places we went for a while a few times at the at the stallion my dick has it.

22:50 But yeah died, I one thing I do treasure is is his is he did make a little record. I think it was in the 70s or something and that is something that's really need to have his and yeah, we have some at 7 every morning.

23:05 Quadratic the record plus took a live show that he had died and made that CD and Ice. That was really nice. I don't have my coffee and you know your sister Jennifer I just found out has never played her switch. I've been looking for one that would never play that we need to burn in hell. That would be great because every time I get one he give them away to people so that's what happened to somebody. But anyway,

23:37 Oh my gosh that we have a lot to cover, you know, a lot of Merle Haggard stuff, but he he could do and people different times tried to get him to do a we have went and seen a Burl Ives impersonator and it was amazing Sky traveled all over the United States. And anyway, I could do I mean it's just close your eyes and think was Hank Snow. It was amazing and different people talk to you about your doing stuff like that when you got you know, if six children are home and like that and he's been very ill the last 10-12 years has lots of health problems and stuff. And that's one of the things that's been the hardest is

24:14 He can't he'll pick up his guitar and His Hands won't work. You know what to do that and it's been really hard on him. I think I know and I think it's made his health worse because he doesn't do that kind of stick out of stuff that used to give him going. You know, it's not it's not good, right?

24:43 Can I ask why you wanted to leave and boy?

24:47 Why we left Amboy when I married Clyde the kids his dad.

24:56 We are she just slipped a few miles away from there for several years and then it was in the 70s Kathy's 176 and 75. There just was no work. He moved or heat at that time. He set up manufactured homes, and there was there was just no work. So we went to Hermiston.

25:16 And we were there and a half and then we went to Redmond, Oregon and then we were in Nevada and then we were back to Amboy and then we were in Vancouver.

25:29 Back to Hermiston and then we weren't there long till for awhile to Jumpman on was Stanfield. So yeah, that was interesting when I do remember that and the music was a big thing when we were in Hermiston. I mean, it was a big thing there really big thing. You played all over

25:56 And dumb anyway, and we still think that we love to come here from Vancouver from Vancouver is the next time like I said in 81 and County start school that you're nasty was graduating that year. We've moved her April 1st, and he stayed in Amboy and graduated cuz you just said about the scroll up, but the other five four

26:21 Were you able to it just it just it we just couldn't keep moving these kids around changing schools and and and

26:30 The only thing I wish I could have with Amboy my love that little town it's almost like whisper kind of reminds me of it. It's not I was remember driving in the Amway and we drive through the Midfield like at Midfield for being in each side. Just smell I would just bring back those and now they're blueberries, but I remember that I'll always remember that that means feeling that's funny. There's all these things that I've wanted to do for a long time and I didn't I so need to ride him down and do them.

27:07 Get bucket list every time I go to Amboy, there's things I have been doing this for 40 years of going back and there's things I want to see that for course grandma would have done it wasn't think she could I do I always think if those wild we called him Easter flowers that grow in the spring still grow on this little path between Through the Trees from upper and lower loran boy. I always wonder if kids want to go down to Nick's and see if kids are still down there catching crawdads cuz we did that every day. I did I did that as well. And another Vicky is down behind the territorial de grounds to go down there to the creek.

27:49 Where we where we swim cuz if across the road from the house and

27:53 That's where we swim. You don't know who just I don't know. If I did do something recently though. I can't was it that I always wanted to do.

28:02 I got out of my way. I remember one time my sister and my mother when we were living in boy, we're going to give blood and I said, well I want to go and they said no you couldn't do that.

28:15 And so course I said yes if I know what I had to so they left in any way they were just got inside when I got there and they both looked at me like you can't I don't know why they thought that any way across I passed out. I know I know I went to my first circus. Oh, well. Oh, yes little Blake Jennifer's littlest one. I took Blake and I was going to take you a little girl, but I've never been and you enjoyed yourself we did it was fun. Just like was very very good. Yeah. Yeah. That was fun.

29:00 What'd you know for a circus coming through a small town like Dayton?

29:05 I thought it was fantastic. It was everything I never thought I would be only we had the trapeze read everything and you were surprised at how many people were there? I was surprised him I feel for their but I always right. Yeah, there had been over a hundred of them. I was I was surprised. Professional actually was I need to go I've been once that I don't really and I was very touched that Blake he wrote the road, but then they had a lot of little animals and they had a hippopotamus with big tank and stuff. But the thing he kept going back to for the baby goats. I have always I love goats always have

29:51 Yeah, and he just kept going back to that guy that picture and kissing the goat. He was so I was just really touch that though. My car smells like goats and I ever tell people I do one thing. I just love you started a few years back. Then three years now of making sure that you do something with your children during the summer and it's our first year was at no 7, I think

30:17 We went to the beach. No. No, we didn't really rude to Silverwood Silverwood. Everybody was invited and everybody showed up but Steve and Steve never shows you really never shows up, but does he just thinks he's like a little kid though. He kind of does his thing. But but we did enjoy ourselves with with the silver one. Wish I could have stayed in the Lazy River a little longer and then our second year. We went to the beach. Yes, and everybody was so nice because I have Long Beach head really fun member. That was the one thing.

30:55 The daddy I never said he'd wake us up at 3 in the morning. So we were going to clam digging and off. We goes like a 2 and 1/2 hour drive. So that's where we went back to to Long Beach. And then I called Aunt Dorothy cuz we were there tonight and my sister brought mother and came and then my brother came which just shocked me to death and we had an amazing time and then we skipped a year because I took your girls went to Vegas last year. Yes. Yes this year my first time in Vegas this year. You're the only one that missed it my God.

31:28 Mounted these Wonder horses on top of these remote control trucks and at horse race. Is it at his house or the 4th July and there was like 70 people and it was most fun weekend. I can remember we laughed all weekend.

31:44 Your sister drella that evening is raw around the bonfire Drew us through a hula hoop on the ground.

31:52 I said we were going to play a game called.

31:56 Ring Of Truth and you voluntarily ain't nobody had to had to get in the ring and you were allowed to say anything that you wanted about them all their faults everything and they couldn't respond and while you're in this ring she's throwing those little popper firecrackers in the ring around your feet.

32:18 Anyway, we had a blast and we learned some interesting things about people I was really disappointed. I was in there but you know, everybody was saying how it was such a great weekend and 35 know every ghola guys like that. I hope that doesn't mean that I'm the one that causes everything. I never said it out loud. I'll just now but yeah and Ellen the other thing or second to tell you. Oh, we had to ex son-in-law's there.

32:48 And it was really cool cat heat one got up and was going to get in the ring.

32:56 I probably have to tell you his name Kathleen Mueller Tiffany, you'll notice and Kathleen set back at our glass of wine. She said I've been waiting for this for 20 years and he stepped back out wouldn't go and I know I know who we were really lucky because my kids don't have a good marriage record. I have six kids. We've had like nine weddings. We've had nine divorces without actually had 10 divorces note 9 weddings and 9 divorces, right and out of six. We have one that's married. So and one that's never been married. So the numbers are not good so I might have told my girls.

33:40 Never never to get lucky allowed to get married again. I don't care what they do, but they're not getting married. I will be the person at the wedding when they ask is anybody have any objection there been here for me. You're not if you're not good at me. I just don't even try it first Jennifer.

34:00 Who knows? I might let her get married again. She's very twice and divorced twice to the same guy and it wouldn't surprise me a bit if it happened again five years down the road and it wouldn't surprise me either but I think that you know, okay, cuz I think it is I think they're meant for each other at night and hopefully they'll figure it out one day. I really do weather good either in their forties now, it's yes, I know you know, yeah, I just think that they were the ones that we've opened because of my point was I was going to tell you though is all these excesses of my kids.

34:34 My kids get irritated me sometimes because I have such I have

34:40 I'm still there for all these people all that one and I would be I don't really have anything against him. He's just he just never

34:48 I just didn't get as close to him and I course I'll blame that on him. But the other share I mean I hear from him. I'm doing stuff for me to see you and they come to family thinks that's fine their family. All right, and that's I think that's great. You know that ever be still. I mean all of they all still get along ever because you had a long and we actually Kathleen

35:15 To her ex-husband and her current boyfriend needed a threesome for golf so she called the other ex-husband to ask if he be the threesome.

35:25 I tell you that no, I didn't know that was in the new boyfriend, huh the One X.

35:33 Couldn't he couldn't be her. He was probably would have done it though.

35:45 Funny

35:48 I mean, I know I've asked you all questions or anything. I mean, I don't really want to be put on the spot. Is there anything you want to ask me or just hope that you kids aren't you know, I just I think I've tried awfully hard and in early years. It was very hard. I mean, you know how we struggle financially and stuff and now it's a little easier on me this time so I can over there since you guys can help me and it all works well and stuff and I just

36:18 I know there was times that was just really rough. And I hope your kids and you will I think as you get older you'll look back and think that maybe I didn't have any other choice cuz it's time. I didn't think I did and so and I think you see those things clearly. I don't you know, and I I I know I see that now and I'm hoping my siblings do because I know I know a couple of them talk to you quite a bit, you know about different things in the last few years and I really feel like

36:48 I feel closer to you that I did as you know, younger but may I think it's because there were so many of us but

36:56 But I I I don't fault you for everything. I mean, I want to tell you that one of my biggest regrets. Is you for girls.

37:08 That I didn't encourage you more to have friends other than the four of you. You've always been the four of years each other's best friends. And Kathleen of course is a little different and he or she has her although she sells Costa YouTube that I just sent you other three. I wish you girls would whatever walls are not come down. And I mean, I've got three or four friends that kept me going over the years just knowing that they were there and I was just I wish you girls would make some friends of other than each other I was best friends with Gorilla is it is a teenager. She's my best friend now,

37:52 She's not she doesn't live by us and Jennifer does Liv close but we know where you know, we're friends and sisters but not like you're all that I were and I do miss that and then you I got real close when she was my neighbor. So that was really nice. I got to know her better and I succeeded me as well and I would love to have a best friend, but I just don't even know where to start. So I love her dearly although she irritates me and I'm sure I irritate her up or just remember what I always told you when something happens to me. She's not to have and I told her this to don't let that woman plan my funeral. I love you Terry, but I can see you put makeup all over my face and little funny curls in my hair.

38:42 You can't dress mom up like a doll with me up like one of her dolls stuff. Well, am I do appreciate you mom, you know doing this and I didn't want to say that, you know, we did just open a new Diner this weekend is a little 50s diner in and I pretty much begged you and force you to let me use your name for it. And I think it's going to be a really good success and I appreciate you helping us get it going with the experience you had, you know in the business and stuff and I can never thank you enough for that and just even for just being my mom. Well, it's great to have you guys have really worked hard at looks good, and it's awesome.

39:26 And I think it's all going to be fine. I don't know. I just want to I want to say thing. I know you've mentioned Savannah and and Alex Alex Marie. I'm is my youngest. I was just wondering because I thought about that cuz he is quite the little sake and a preemie baby that we did it on for so many years and now he's become independent and it's so hard to believe but he is a sweetheart Too Faced just sex and all the kids are but there's something special about sack he's so gentle and so yeah, that's just he's really special glad you asked me to do this, honey, and I love you a lot.

40:11 And I love you, and I'm glad we did too.