Sally DeGan and Frances Marchesini

00:04 Sally Degan, I'm 56 years old. Today is Saturday, February 6th 2021, and I'm calling in from Lexington Massachusetts and my conversation partner is Fran marchesini my longtime friend through larsh.

00:29 Brand your turn.

00:31 I'm going to find I am I am 63 years old and I live.

00:48 My birthday is October 7th. Today's date 6.

00:56 Edward 670-6921

01:03 I'm coming from Halo top to my body.

01:09 Say it again.

01:12 Nice, we are good to go friend.

01:19 I just can't believe we get to hang out for 40 minutes together and I'm thinking of how long you kept saying it we've known each other for we go way back and I'm thinking that when I first met you you might have been working at Burger King Beverly Mass. Remember that? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah pasta.

01:49 Were you in plast out or Justin Beverly?

02:03 I'm trying to think that myself but now I have to be.

02:16 Where should I live in?

02:19 Video of Pat house in LaFollette

02:25 Where were you had you moved in or were you still living with your family? I still love my family, but my mother was around.

02:35 Yeah, cuz your family is really important to you. Huh? And you've got a bit who's in your family. I can never remember all those people. / marry me Frankie, Joey Allen Jimmy. I want one.

03:10 How long ago was 60?

03:18 CR 63 now

03:21 Wow, we got movie. I want to hear when we were 68 of you still living nice.

03:57 Tupac

04:01 My father

04:08 And what about your new family's ouuu family is big but now

04:15 What do you consider your new family?

04:19 My new family is Marley's parents.

04:31 Where's my girlfriend? She lives with me now and she's getting mad when I got with me song. Yep, or a suit. I guess I should say so could be a suit. That's awful.

05:02 It's really pink. Wow.

05:14 You and Molly go way back as well. How how did you meet Molly?

05:23 I need your help.

05:28 Did you live in in l'arche with her?

05:40 Bo Viet

05:47 Record last 3 Avenue

06:01 Jimmy Frank

06:10 Looking for a house before.

06:23 Pink eye take it as your favorite color.

06:26 And if people could see us see through this video called we're doing they would see what color are the boots you have on.

06:38 Let me see your boobs pic.

06:46 So free and win when you first heard about l'arche it was because you were working with somebody at Burger King who lived in l'arche.

06:59 That right, Donald Donald

07:07 And he lives to he's still part of the community, isn't he?

07:13 Russia history

07:18 Yeah.

07:22 I got here is a scam Joe.

07:38 I've lost track but you still in the community is getting old. We're all getting old.

07:53 Has large become your new family.

07:57 I think so. Yeah, I still have my sister Mary and Ken.

08:08 And what are some of the fun? What are some memories you have of living at the pat house in Ipswich?

08:19 Loss of loved one

08:27 You didn't live there you just visited.

08:37 Kalamazoo self

08:42 And then you

08:46 How do you decide how did you decide you wanted to live with these folks?

08:52 Minnie Mouse song

08:57 Before she

08:59 Mnemonic came with me and

09:35 Or she said you weren't.

09:42 I would maybe 19.

09:47 Wow.

09:49 Wow.

09:52 See you at lifted home until you moved into the community at Large.

10:00 And your mom helped you make that decision.

10:08 Was it was it hard for you to live away from your mom and your family I go home on Friday to come back Sunday show.

10:27 Google JK

10:31 I got some phone calls.

10:34 The time came in

10:45 Nana called and told me I have a phone call very important phone call and I said what she said.

10:59 And now I understand.

11:08 Outside your mother is in the hospital and she's not ready.

11:22 Are you telling me playing Ghostbusters?

11:27 Show my two brothers pick me up Allen and Joey pick me up.

11:37 And that's why we drink.

11:46 Go to mile away from me.

11:50 It's too much my brother before.

11:58 They call me again.

12:01 They said the twins.

12:08 So I saw water truck me so much my brother.

12:15 How to Bob I should Mom I love you too brother, but I could not so I could not seen that one. You don't want to remember him like that, huh?

12:40 I'm not sure if they told me I would be a bad path here with all of this. I hope you're alright with me Allen and Joey pick me up. Where is my suitcase sold her house and all the brothers Allen Joey.

13:22 Gimli took off with my mother

13:35 Zodiac sign hit

13:41 Nearest I think it's almost time to say goodbye tomorrow.

14:08 Sherry Martin go go go to home. I mean really, okay.

14:25 That's great. You will be okay what the mother's worried that our kids would he be transgender Hard Rock buffets Inc.

14:42 So I came.

14:48 Call Mom.

14:51 Not good friend.

14:56 What happened? Okay.

15:04 Don't lie, but Liars.

15:10 Read okay. My friend.

15:16 I got Mari Chan. I got the spot hot.

15:23 Don't worry about it.

15:28 Finish chapter. I'll make sure she's okay.

15:37 Is a gray squirrel a Brothers?

15:44 Wake up my sister-in-law.

15:49 And that time came and

15:56 Well, I got that news mom's dying.

16:02 Family game

16:06 Road runners

16:12 Last time I mean

16:17 We had Ellis Alta.

16:21 Cyclebar, you know, what's amazing friend you talk about your mama's if you're still very close as if she's virtually in the Next Room.

16:41 She was she was a big important person for you, huh?

16:45 And do you think

16:57 My mother died to about 15 years ago or more, maybe. Yes, definitely before your mom.

17:17 So thank God you have the family here in Larch that you have, huh? So what happened?

17:31 It's time to put them what I wanted.

17:36 Anthony

17:41 Renee and

17:44 Mary says to me you can buy for one person.

17:49 Line deco

17:55 What if I guess wrong?

18:00 What's a molly?

18:13 What's my mother's name?

18:28 Yeah, we'll go on the Swan House.

18:35 I have to have somebody with me so you can go with me just me cuz I would have came and I'm

18:47 Just hanging out.

18:49 I'm trying to avoid going to hang out with me.

18:52 I don't know who.

18:55 Hemolysis to me who you want to hang out with.

19:05 Street Outlaws race.

19:20 And then

19:25 She decide to move.

19:30 Swarm of this you do that you do the real regular stuff for the day that you vacuum you clean your room with swana and that's how you get close to the closest wanna help me with my laundry.

19:48 And then

19:51 Wendigo ride somewhere

19:57 Samsung Go Go Warehouse

20:11 Naxi movies

20:15 Where'd she moved to nearby?

20:23 She had one of the big house the big trucks big.

20:30 An RV like an RV

20:41 Have you been in it?

20:56 Down bottom

20:58 She has a long time she has old sage at home store.

21:05 Wow.

21:14 What are some fun memories you have of times you spent with? Swana?

21:18 Ms. Yeah

21:27 We go together.

21:37 Fire hydrants

21:39 What color do you want?

21:44 For the town

21:48 Yeah, oh my gosh. What about what about red traveling? Have you traveled with swana?

21:57 Now okay that Division. I hope she finished.

22:07 Cuz I'm thinking you've done some traveling to when your time with large right who flew on your first airplane trip with you.

22:23 When was Junior was waiting for us at Marquette University? I think yes there. Yeah, you had to go to without your buddy sister Pat and and you want to go with me this week?

22:52 I personally think of you, okay.

23:00 You did great.

23:12 Yeah.

23:14 Sunflower shoes is your home now and you a lot of your family members still but new family in larsh.

23:26 Yep.

23:28 And not I'm

23:32 What's a day like for you? What are you doing?

23:40 What's that?

23:43 What is a regular day like look for you? What were you up to yesterday morning take me through your day.

23:58 I had an angel fly.

24:03 Friday morning

24:10 Or else to hang out with the little kids.

24:14 A little kids dying

24:18 She has 101 Movie 1 years old.

24:33 And she lives with you in the house with Molly or she lives in a different apartment first floor.

24:44 Did you have breakfast with them tomorrow morning?

24:49 Usual I couldn't but

24:53 But now I'm Batman.

25:01 One

25:06 What was that on?

25:13 So you hung out with them what happened the rest of the day?

25:21 On Sundays

25:24 Now that was Friday.

25:27 Where are you at?

25:32 At 2

25:37 Wood Ranch to Mother's new house

25:42 Oh nice.

25:49 I want today to bury.

25:54 Wow, so when are you guys moving?

26:09 All right, cuz when they get married.

26:14 Nice

26:19 So how is that? Are you worried about Molly moving to another place kind of Jesus? Yeah.

26:34 I still have

26:37 Yeah.

26:38 I guess you're coming to get used to that people in l'arche come and go there's a lot of change, right?

26:47 But then some of us stay the same even if we don't see each other a lot right you and me.

26:56 Yep.

26:59 So who's going to be in your house with you, Sophie and Emma?

27:07 Nice the hoodlums going to be a guest room.

27:11 All right.

27:13 So am I that reminds me Emma's the one that makes hummus? Yes.

27:20 Do you do that too?

27:22 Tell us about that. What what what are you up to with hummus?

27:30 We make

27:38 Do you do what do you want to go to the kitchen and make some hummus with Emma?

27:47 You guys sell it in the in the

27:54 The orange peel

28:05 Beats

28:07 Is red beet things beet hummus. You make beet hummus if it's so easy. I don't know how to make Bahamas. You know what you're doing.

28:29 And then you press the button.

28:35 The Anna comes over fire Jason, okay.

28:50 So who else do that with you?

28:55 Who else makes hummus when when you're there?

29:01 Questioning

29:05 Christine I got a funny Christine Story piano

29:14 Have you ever heard of play the piano?

29:17 I don't know.

29:19 Really? So one time I walked into one of the houses and somebody was I couldn't see the piano they were in the other room and I heard Christine saying oh my gosh, you've gotten so much better. I'm so proud of how you've progressed with your piano playing really sounds great and like it's playing the piano. So I walk up stairs and around the corner to the room where the piano is.

29:50 It was Christine. She was talking to herself all happy about how she was playing the piano.

30:04 What is she talking about?

30:14 Does she have her own cat?

30:19 No one has a black one on yourself.

30:27 So I wish I was as nice to myself as Christine was to herself about playing the piano. I must say.

30:42 Can you freeze?

30:54 Sally if she gets a salary Junior

30:58 Yeah, how do you get from Lush?

31:05 So my mom

31:08 Started going to La Salette in Ipswich and she saw Donald and Philip there. Yeah.

31:18 And Philip if that time that was a 30-40 years ago. He still had red hair at one time and like my brother Tom who you know, and so she went to the fair on the grounds of lasalette to see what was going on. Who are these people living in this house? And she met Elizabeth Buckley?

31:53 And sister Pat

31:56 Carol Duprey

32:01 Debbie esler

32:04 And Donald and fill the dynamic duo.

32:11 Yeah, so she she got she invited me to go meet with Elizabeth II when I was in college.

32:20 And

32:23 Suisun air out I was like in 1980.

32:27 6 Maybe

32:31 I started visiting so I think that's about when I met you.

32:43 What's that?

32:50 And cuz you were in faith in light, right?

32:54 Yeah.

32:56 So then I don't know did you know that I went and spent a summer in a large large community in Ontario?

33:06 So I live there for a summer.

33:10 And then I helped Elizabeth Buckley open up the house at lamoille Ave. What do you guys call it peace house now.

33:22 House is Nazarene. Yeah and Karen.

33:32 Karen Karen Karen Karen who her last name started with an F.

33:45 Amy wants an area Joe Cole's remember Joel.

33:50 Who killed the giant ham?

33:56 That's right. Unbelievable.

34:03 He did what?

34:06 Yeah.

34:08 Yep.

34:12 What's up with my twin but enough?

34:19 I don't know.

34:21 What's the other Frankie? Who's that?

34:27 I forget.

34:38 Diver tell you the time so it was catfish ducas. That's what was good.

34:53 Oh, really? I think.

35:01 Yep, and

35:05 Do Joel and Debbie lives there?

35:10 With me

35:18 I think I'm done.

35:22 Yeah, you may have which room are you in?

35:25 Colors of stain

35:29 That's what Elizabeth.

35:37 What would it what what do you think you'll be living in Marsh for the rest of your life?

35:47 You don't know.

35:52 Maybe I don't know.

35:55 Tell me more about that dude. Where would you like to live?

36:06 I really don't know.

36:09 I've been with you a long time, huh?

36:25 Seen you through thick and thin.

36:31 Nelson Trucking

36:33 I don't have a boyfriend at all.

36:38 I don't have a boyfriend either.

36:43 Translator

36:53 Yeah, so I think of when I think of l'arche and the friendships that I've had with you and

37:03 Other folks what means so much to me is that you've been there for me?

37:11 What's up?

37:16 Yeah, no matter what I do.

37:19 You're always there with the same excited. Hello good.

37:38 How about you what are some of the things that it's meant? What's it meant to you to have this new community this new family to live with?

37:56 When Molly found a house

38:00 She asked me when I want to move in with her and I said yeah, what do we hit the new house now, and she asked me that question again. I didn't know what she was talking about, but

38:32 Ashley yeah, so when you get out again check my pneumo and I just born

38:47 Schneider National

38:52 Yeah, I know. We have my room out.

38:58 We feel at home in my own bed.

39:02 MTV

39:07 Nice

39:11 Your own laptop

39:14 Yep.

39:17 And good friends

39:26 Franny do you feel like you're one of the the Old Guard the the sort of the the folks who welcome the new people into large now. You've been here so long.

39:49 I think you I think you're one of those that you are you've been on the board in a round.

40:04 You've done a lot lift a lot.

40:09 Any last things you want to say about your

40:15 UPS

40:17 Any last things you want to say about what the largest meant in your life?

40:30 I know that's kind of questions are tough, huh?

40:36 I think I hear it in your voice and when you talk about Molly and swanna.

40:46 It's a reward for lost two people.

40:49 I don't know what to do.

40:53 What was that? Say that again? I'm sorry. Say that again.

41:07 Stumps grandma

41:13 Well large has been quite.

41:17 The the constant in my life with you and for my brother and my mom.

41:30 Yep, three brothers.

41:34 It's been a place of acceptance.

41:38 And welcome.

41:41 That is unlike any other I've found in my life.

41:47 Is it weird to put my mother I would have not been here right now.

41:56 Yep, we come back to your mom. We started with your mom and we come back to your mom.

42:23 Okay.

42:30 All right. Yeah, we got to stop on a good note. How Fran about the fun times.

42:39 All right, any last words friend before we end?

42:48 I hope we have many more years together.

43:00 You're young 64 you're fine.

43:04 And I lost 20 lb.

43:08 Why are we not talk about that you started to just now?

43:14 What you doing? What's the secret Amber stupid food?

43:33 Or maybe that the food is so horrible. You don't need anyting.

43:40 Is anyone have food right now? It's like

43:43 Not sure why not forget. I have not to get in Coke.

43:47 Lightweight

43:49 Oh, yeah.

43:52 If I had you can ask Jeff Dunham.

44:01 Alright friend. Thanks for spending this time with me.

44:09 Anna

44:13 Any

44:15 I guess that's probably it. We're about a time you want to say one last thing?

44:24 You can't think anymore.

44:28 All right.

44:30 You did good.

44:34 All right.

44:37 Nice talking to you friend.

44:40 Take care.

44:43 Alright, love you, too.